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No More Mr. Nice Guy

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“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” (Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models)  Dr. Robert Glover’s groundbreaking book, No More Mr. Nice Guy, has helped create a worldwide movement of men seeking to become more conscious, authentic, empowered, and successful.  Just what is a Nice Guy, why is being nice a problem, and why would someone write a book that teaches men to be not nice? A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Glover, is a man who believes he is not okay, just as he is. Due to both societal and familial conditioning, this man is convinced he must become what he thinks others want him to be in order to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others. This inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice.  In fact, Nice Guys are generally:  Dishonest  Secretive  Manipulative  Controlling  Self-centered and narcissistic  Passive-aggressive  Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, caretaking, fixing, people pleasing, avoiding conflict, unsatisfying relationships, and issues with sexuality, pornography, and compulsive masturbation. The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts:  If I am good, then I will be liked and loved (and the women I want to have sex with will want to have sex with me).  If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.  If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.  These covert contracts create a roadmap for life that rarely results in the Nice Guy getting what he really wants. Thankfully, there are answers.  No More Mr. Nice Guy teaches men how to:  Set boundaries and handle conflict  Live with purpose and passion  Release toxic shame  Soothe anxiety  Differentiate from fused emotional systems  Connect with men and build tribe  Have satisfying relationships  Experience great sex  Live life on their terms  Achieve success  Live up their potential in work and career  This process allows the recovering Nice Guy to move through:  Depression  Social anxiety and shyness  Codependency  Low self-esteem Loneliness and hopelessness  Feelings of failure  Lack of confidence and purpose  Compulsive behaviors and addictions  Feeling stuck in life  Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. In fact, Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls an Integrated Male. Becoming integrated doesn’t mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of one’s self. An integrated male is able to embrace everything that makes him unique: his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side. If you are single and are frequently told you are “too nice” and end up in the friend zone, if you are married and frustrated with conflicts or lack of sex, or if you are rotting in middle management in the workplace, this book is for you. If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how. Dr. Glover holds a Ph.D. in marriage and family therapy and is committed to empowering men to achieve dating and relationship success. He is a recovering Nice Guy. 

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Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
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