Are you the Fallback Girl? If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one, but you're struggling with commitment, or you've been in the ambiguous territory of a "casual relationship", you've likely tried to change them, wondered what you did to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you're going crazy. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women who love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold to where that future they promised went to, how you've ended up being a booty call, why you've been together for a gazillion years but aren't going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you're involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here. You know you're dealing with unavailability when you ask stuff like: What happened to that great guy from the beginning? Why won't he break up or stay away if he doesn't want to commit? What the hell did I do to make him disappear? Is he going to leave her for me? It's because he's shy/busy/scared of his feelings, isn't it? Inspired by the real-life adventures in unavailability of Natalie Lue and the readers of her site, BaggageReclaim.com. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is an empowering, entertaining, and inspiring read that will wise you up to pitfalls such as men who aren't over their exes, Future Fakers, guys who have more baggage than a Heathrow terminal, and reappearing childhood sweethearts. If you want to understand your own availability and why commitment in a healthy relationship is eluding you, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is your guide to being available and attracted to healthy, available partners. Back in the summer of 2005, Natalie Lue was a single advertising executive wondering out loud on her blog why she had a penchant for unavailable men. Using her site, BaggageReclaim.com, to answer that question while transforming her life, her blog has become a go-to source for understanding emotional unavailability, commitment, dating, relationships and self-esteem while inspiring many thousands of people to change their own relationship habits.
©2011 Natalie Lue (P)2015 Audible, Ltd
You're trying to get over your ex, yet you're still in touch and have ended up being his or her backup plan. Maybe you haven't left yet, but you want to and just don't know how. Maybe you're tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding up back at square one. It's time to cut contact. The No Contact Rule is an inspiring guide to extinguishing the temptation to stay in touch or to keep engaging, helping you to reclaim your sense of self and move on to a healthier relationship. Through her popular blog Baggage Reclaim, Natalie Lue has helped thousands of people break free from unhealthy relationships and breakups after using No Contact to kick a toxic relationship and transform her life. Discover what NC is and how to do it, how to break an unhealthy cycle, and how to navigate various situations from Facebook to pesky texts, working together, sharing a child, or feeling trapped by your feelings and thoughts. Cut contact and put the focus on you. By treating you with the love, care, trust, and respect you deserve, this could be one of the best decisions you've ever made.
©2013 Natalie Lue (P)2015 Audible, Ltd
Most people, if asked, would deny that they'd ever had fantasy relationships, as they are associated with pretending to be with someone or in something that's nonexistent. However, it's time for you to change what you think you know. In this modern age of texts, email, Facebook, online dating, and casual relationships, it's never been so easy to find yourself in a crumb-filled fantasy relationship. An increasing number of people are satisfied with sprinklings of attention and interaction which they use to give themselves the illusion of being loved, cared for, and in control because they get to avoid commitment, intimacy, and full-on rejection. The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship is for every woman who's been caught short by her overactive imagination and her great expectations. Struggled to get over a relationship that didn't truly exist? Don't understand how you wound up spending years with someone you hardly saw? Keep letting your assumptions and projections run away with you? It's time to come back down to earth and face reality so you can take action in your present, face your real future, and get happy. Acting as a companion guide to Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, the no-holds-barred Bible for understanding excuse-filled, commitment-dodging, unavailable men and the women that they fall back on for an ego stroke, shag, and a shoulder to lean on, I wanted to introduce a new role due to the sheer number of emails and comments I receive from women who actually believe that the crumbs they're receiving, particularly via cheap talk, grand promises, texts, email, and Facebook are relationships or love. The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship explains how fantasy relationships work, why they're so attractive, and the types of fantasy relationship and Mr. Unavailable that you're likely to be involved with and provides practical tips and tools for breaking the habit and tackling issues such as rejection avoidance and fear of abandonment, criticism, and conflict. Delivered with a no-fluff dose of reality and plenty of humour, I want to empower you to let go of the illusions so you can be available for an available relationship in the real world.
©2013 Natalie Lue (P)2015 Audible. Ltd