You are a good man who made a bad decision. You were unfaithful in your marriage. You love your wife, and now that you see clearly what your infidelity has done to her, you are incredibly sorry you have hurt her so much. You want to save your marriage. You don't want to lose your family. I know you are doing your best to regain your wife's trust, but no matter what you do, you seem to make it worse. She has so many questions about your affair. So. Many. Questions. Not only is your wife furious, but she's also emotionally volatile. Sometimes, she seems to love you more deeply than ever, and other times, she kicks you out of the house. You are on a roller coaster. You want your marriage back, but you're not sure how to help your wife trust you again and move forward. She doesn't know what she wants, and her volatility exhausts and upsets you. You both are stuck. My name is Dr. Caroline Madden. I've been a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles for more than a decade. I have helped countless couples restore their marriages after infidelity. I've seen women just like your wife go through the whole process - from uncovering their husbands' affair to making it to the other side, heart healed and marriage restored. I have heard their innermost thoughts and concerns as they try to process their husbands' betrayal. I know what specific stages your wife will experience. I know what prevents women from moving forward, and I know what women need in order to trust and forgive. Most importantly, I know the things men say and do that they think are helpful but actually make things worse. This audiobook is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity. Learn the tools to fix your marriage. Avoid the (sometimes fatal) mistakes I've seen so many men make. In this audiobook, you'll learn the things your wife is going to feel, say, and do, giving you the following: Insight into what she is thinking and why this is so hard for her to get over Practical advice so you know exactly what to do at this important stage Actual scripts so you know what to say in response to very specific situations Clear explanations as to why certain words and actions you think will be helpful might be making this worse Two self-administered quizzes to help you determine why you cheated so you can get a better understanding of what triggered your affair. Included at the appropriate points are scripts of what to say and why you need to say those words at that time. This is the most important time for you to get things right, because your wife is actively deciding at this stage whether or not she wants to stay with you. Buy After a Good Man Cheats today.
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Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself. You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you're falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such as: Obsessively checking your husband's email and Facebook accounts Going through his cell phone history while he is in the shower Freaking out if he is 10 minutes late (or if you text him, and he doesn't reply right away) Questioning whether you are attractive After a rare happy moment with your husband, getting really, really angry and raging at him out of nowhere You're scared, angry, obsessive, and devastated. One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.) All of this makes you feel like you are losing it. Sometimes you worry that you are going crazy. You wonder if you'll ever be the same again. You are not crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband's betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience. This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It's important that you understand that your feelings - erratic and unpredictable as they may be - are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings. Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and marriage therapist, describes: Post-traumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS) Seven actions you want to take but should not (as they may backfire horribly) Understand the thoughts that plague you 12 actions that will help you get back to the woman you were The stupid things your husband says and why he says it This book does not take a position on whether or not you should stay in your marriage.
©2016 Caroline Madden (P)2018 CAROLINE MADDEN
You've discovered that your husband has cheated on you. Maybe, you've discovered incriminating emails or text messages from his lover, or worse, you have actually seen them together. Your world is crashing down. You feel like a nuclear bomb just decimated your entire world, and you are trying to shield yourself from the fallout. This is very likely the most painful experience you've ever had. You've been sucker-punched in the soul. Infidelity in marriage makes you doubt everything, including your own judgement. You are so confused. Your emotions are volatile - one minute you're so angry you could claw his eyes out, but the next moment, you're devastated with grief because you fear he will to leave you for his affair partner. You never wanted a divorce, but somehow, you are now in this position. Do you take him back or blow up your family? What about the kids? It's all so unfair! Ever since you were a young woman, you told all your friends that if your man ever cheated on you, you would be so out of there. But life isn't black and white anymore, is it? You love your husband. Sure, there might have been issues, but you know that marriage is work. You've built a life together. You have a home. You have children. You cringe at the idea of being a single mother and hitting the dating scene. He seems sincere in wanting to work things out. You want to stay married. But then you think to yourself: "Only weak women stay with cheaters. Strong women walk out!" Then you loop and want a divorce, until you think of your kids being split between two homes, and now, you want to stay married. Rinse, repeat. You can't even think straight and you keep going through a never ending loop of ambivalence. You will never get unstuck until you develop criteria around whether your husband is sincere in wanting your marriage to recover after infidelity. Dr. Caroline Madden is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping women recover from their husband's infidelity. In Fool Me Once, she shares the criteria she uses to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he is likely to cheat again. Here are some of the information she shares: The five things that look suspicious (but probably aren't) The five signs you should consider giving him another chance The seven signs that he is going to cheat again (and you will be hurt again) Infidelity in marriage is traumatic, and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving. As they say: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
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