Narcissistic Fathers: Practical Guide for Adult Children to Deal with Emotional Abusive Toxic Fathers and Recover from CPTSD

Summary

Have you ever felt the pain of humiliation from your father? Are you wondering why your father made your childhood so miserable? Do you sometimes rack your brain on why your father seems so different?   If yes, please listen on. It is sad to see many children carry the pain of parental abuse until the adult stage. In the family with a narcissistic father, there is only one very bright star: him.   "Dark" sun of the family, the partner, and the children exist only as satellite planets that orbit around it, reflecting their light. The narcissist father always changes personality and behavior outside his home. He can transform himself into the opposite of what appears at home.   "In front of the world, the relationship with my father is perfect, but behind closed doors, everything changes."  This only increases the family drama of these children, forced not only to bear daily harassment but even unable to find understanding and comfort in the people they have close to them. Children are challenged continuously through constant comparison. Generally, he elects a "Golden Child" and a "Scapegoat Child". The first is the idealized extension of the father, or "The Chosen One", the one who is destined for great awards and honors, as desired by the Narcissistic Father for himself. The scapegoat child's function is to be the container for the garbage that the narcissistic parent cannot accept to keep. Whether they are Golden Children or Scapegoats, they are sadly alone because children of a narcissistic family cannot ally with the healthy parent, as in these family rules:   "If one parent is a perverse narcissist, the other is dominated by it". This psychological damage grows into a disorder known as C-PTSD   “I can’t guarantee that you will definitely recover from the deep wounds inflicted by your Narcissistic Father, because I need your cooperation. Still, I can promise that this will be an essential step in your journey for healing and happiness.” (Rose Mary Parker)

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