The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct, and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships, be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member. And she teaches us about "the differences that make a difference": the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood for a lifetime. The Dance of Intimacy offers no "quick fix" for the human dilemma that we all confront. Instead, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, respectful, and helpful insights on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter. Picking up where the best-selling The Dance of Anger left off, Dr. Lerner redefines the meaning of intimacy for today, and shows how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed.
©1989 Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (P)1997, 2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this vivid, engaging and eminently wise work, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating meaningful and lasting change. The challenge of anger is at the heart of our struggle with intimacy, self-esteem, and joy. The Dance of Anger has inspired more "You changed my life" stories from both women and men than perhaps any other best seller on the American scene today.
©1985 Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (P)1997, 2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
Following a unique format perfect for todays world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us more than 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. Its a go-to guide brimming with Lerners signature clarity, wit, and warmth.Couples today operate in a time famine. One or both parties are likely to be hit by one stress after another, and marriage is the first thing to suffer. Here are memorable, easy-to-grasp rules to remind readers of their own good common sense - or to help them get off automatic pilot and do something different. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems (He wont talk or She doesnt want sex) as well as modern ones (your partners relationship with technology). Youll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Get a grip on intensity and over talking Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren, and difficult in-laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart So here it is - a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
©2012 Harriet Lerner (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.