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The Dance of Connection

20 ratings

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In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when: We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line" We are convinced that we've tried everything, and nothing changes Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly. Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

©1999 Harriet Lerner (P)2001 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

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Food, Sex, and Relationships

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A Frank, Sensuous Banquet for the Senses with Three American Originals Get ready for a roller-coaster ride for your senses as Harriet Lerner, Mollie Katzen, and Susie Bright unleash their ideas about America's favorite taboos in Food, Sex, and Relationships. With combined book sales of over seven million copies, these three best-selling writers are at the height of their powers as they cast light in the shadowy corners of the human mind. This high-spirited dialogue covers: How food, sex, and relationships intertwine in American life today Who the real "man haters" are - the surprising truth Where to find a sexual experience that's better than an orgasm! How the foods we eat - and reject - define our very selves Food, Sex, and Relationships includes an eye-opening question-and-answer session plus an exclusive interview revealing the personal journeys that have brought these three cultural pioneers into the hearts of millions of readers and listeners.

©2010 Harriet Lerner, Susie Bright, Mollie Katzen (P)2010 Harriet Lerner, Susie Bright, Mollie Katzen

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The Dance of Anger

6 ratings

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While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this vivid, engaging and eminently wise work, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating meaningful and lasting change. The challenge of anger is at the heart of our struggle with intimacy, self-esteem, and joy. The Dance of Anger has inspired more "You changed my life" stories from both women and men than perhaps any other best seller on the American scene today.

©1985 Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (P)1997, 2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

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The Dance of Intimacy

11 ratings

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The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct, and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships, be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member. And she teaches us about "the differences that make a difference": the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood for a lifetime. The Dance of Intimacy offers no "quick fix" for the human dilemma that we all confront. Instead, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, respectful, and helpful insights on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter. Picking up where the best-selling The Dance of Anger left off, Dr. Lerner redefines the meaning of intimacy for today, and shows how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed.

©1989 Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (P)1997, 2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Narrator: Harriet Lerner
Length: 2 hrs and 52 mins
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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

2 ratings

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Unhappiness, says best-selling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hit, they may become our constant companions. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn: How to have the courage to speak, act, and show up when we are anxious and afraid How to deal with the fear of not being good enough and the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate How to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace How to manage fear and despair when things fall apart How "positive thinking" helps and harms How to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can't avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

©2004 Harriet Lerner (P)2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Narrator: Harriet Lerner
Length: 3 hrs and 44 mins
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