J. B. Snow has 18 audiobooks on Listento.it, narrated by 16 narrators, with an average listener rating of 4.1★ across 24 ratings. The most-rated is 7 Healthy Habits for BPD Sufferers: A 7 Step System Series.
7 Healthy Habits for BPD Sufferers: A 7 Step System Series
Summary
Your emotions unleash at any time. The relationships around you often result in devastation. Your life feels like a chaotic mess. Don't let the trauma of your past delegate your future. Your BPD symptoms or traits can set you up for more pain, agony, and failure if you don't control them now. Your BPD experiences, stress, trauma, and diet can set you up for the devastating disability called multiple sclerosis. Take back control of your life today. Your health and your sanity depend on it! We will show you how. From four-time best-selling authors J. B. Snow and Casey Keller.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
7 Step System: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder
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Are you tired of the people who tell you that you're not good enough to parent your children? Frustrated with the way society stigmatizes the BPD condition? Angry at the way society penalizes parents for having BPD personality traits? This audiobook is for you! Learn the seven step system that will help you to become a better parent even if you suffer from BPD. Stop letting 'experts' beat you up. You deserve to have a fulfilling and satisfying life if you choose to make changes within yourself. Take the reins and control your future and the future of your children and grandchildren. You can do it, and we can help.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
56 Traits of Aspergers Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, and Autism Spectrum Disorders
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Asperger's Syndrome, or high-functioning autism, is a form of autism that falls on the autism spectrum. Asperger's Syndrome can be seen in adults and in children if you know what to look for. Many people who can be described as hypersensitive, odd or eccentric have Asperger's Syndrome which has gone undiagnosed. Some of the greatest comedians, singers, actors and inventors have Asperger's syndrome. They specialize in what they are good at, and they can become highly successful in doing so. In this book, we will discuss the different overt and covert traits that can be seen in those with Asperger's Syndrome in its list form. If you feel that you or someone you know has Asperger's, it is essential to have the diagnosis confirmed so that the Asperger's person can seek help in learning the skills that are essential to making them more successful in their ambitions. Asperger's Syndrome children and adults have an underdeveloped brain on MRI scans. They lack the brain development in certain areas that help them to keep up with their peers. They may be advanced in specialty areas, but they may lag behind their peers in normal development of other areas. Their nervous system and their emotions are often sensitive. They often feel alienated from their peers, as though they do not fit in. Asperger's can cause depression, and possibly even suicide, if it not recognized early.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Custody and Divorce Strategies for the Faint of Heart (In 20 Minutes)
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Are you up against a cruel and malevolent narcissist who thinks you deserve everything you will get just because you left him? Are you worried you will lose everything to the narcissist, including your house and your children? You are in the right place! In 20 minutes, we will give you some pointers on how to handle yourself in and out of court while you are dealing with the narcissist. Many people lose custody and lose in divorce court when going up against a narcissist. With luck and preparation, hopefully you won’t be the next statistic. You must handle the narcissist and the court personnel with kid gloves, lest you be treated as the uncooperative outsider and give the narcissist the upper hand. This audiobook refers to the narcissist as a "he", but the narcissist in the relationship and divorce proceedings can also be a "she". The pronouns are interchangeable for the purposes of this audiobook. Using passive language. Most people in a relationship never realize this, but most narcissists are conditioned (by their narcissistic family members) to use passive voice and react positively toward others who use passive voice. Extroverts use passive voice and phallic voice (small talk) to groom one another without paying much attention to the content of what is being said (but the tone of voice and other nonverbal cues that are used while the talking is occurring). Extroverts (and narcissists) are usually quite visual in nature. They don’t like a lot of words, and they especially don’t like requests that are given to them directly. Narcissists might have their inferiority complex triggered if you give them a direct request because they are not used to getting direct requests from their extroverted friends who passive-aggressively make them think everything they do was their idea. Don’t speak in active voice around a narcissist. Speak passively and always make the narcissist think.... Download now to hear more.
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
Sneaky, Brilliant, and Diabolical Revenge Tactics: To Unhinge and Disarm the Malignant Narcissist
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Life with a narcissist is daunting, harrowing, and unpredictable. He is self-absorbed, self-sufficient, and self-serving. He is haughty, arrogant, and oblivious to your wishes, desires, dreams, and goals. He is rude and envious toward others. He has terrible behavior and even worse manners. He is untrustworthy and incapable of any true and consistent feelings worthy of anyone else's attention. Life with a narcissist is all-consuming, isolated, and draining. He is lacking any adult skills or abilities to meet another person's needs and so he misbehaves and acts out in order to take your attention away from his all-consuming deficits. He is truly only half of a man - and maybe that is generous. He often falls through on his responsibilities to you, up to and including simply meeting your sexual needs. Why do women run to these men in droves? What causes them to drop at the feet of narcissists, seemingly begging for their punishment and negative behaviors? There are deficits that are often present in the woman who seeks out or inadvertently falls prey to a petty narcissist. The narcissist seeks out only specific types of women, and he turns a blind eye to others. There are only certain types of women who have a deficit or an over-interest in dating emotionally immature men such as narcissists. We seek to define these in order to bring a broader knowledge to those who suffer at the hands of narcissists and why narcissists seek out these types for their amusement. If someone tells you a lie enough times, it will eventually be accepted as the truth. You will feel belittled and small so the other person can feel superior and tall. Are you susceptible to falling prey to a narcissist and vulnerable to becoming victimized by them? Which category type do you fall under? This audiobook seeks to teach you revenge tactics you can use to unhinge any narcissist. Narcissists can be girls or guys. Narcissists can be mothers, sisters, brothers, partners, grandparents, fathers, bosses, coaches, teachers, police officers, judges, politicians, and more. You are not immune to their treatment. You must learn to fight back! This audiobook approaches everything from the perspective of the narcissist being male, but we all know narcissists can be female or mixed gender. Please keep this in mind while listening to the audiobook; the tactics can (and do) apply to any narcissistic person in any role and any relationship to you.
©2019 J.B. Snow Publishing (P)2019 J.B. Snow Publishing
Narcissistic Mother
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Many of my listeners are long-suffering daughters or sons of narcissistic mothers. They experience chronic complex PTSD for years after suffering abuse at the hands of their mother. Some people experience emotional abuse, while others also experience the physical side of the abuse from the narcissist in their lives. Most of these daughters and sons will agree that the words and actions of their mothers cut much deeper than the physical pain ever could. The narcissistic mother gaslights to cause her child to feel crazy and so that they will never question her authority. She lies and manipulates the child on a constant basis, rarely ever seeing a need to tell the truth. All of the narcissist's stories are twisted and embellished in order to paint the narcissist in a positive light and to garner attention from others. The child is ever lost in the shadows of a mother who is supposed to provide unconditional and healthy love. We wonder why toxic and narcissistic mothers are never caught abusing their children. Why are they never brought to justice? Why are their children never removed from their custody? The answer is because of the level of manipulation that goes into being narcissistic. The self-protective narcissist will lie to save themselves. The narcissistic mother whines day and night about her responsibilities. She despises and detests her own children. She believes that they were forced onto her in the first place, rather than taking accountability for having chosen the path of parenthood. She treats her children as though they are her servants, but they are beneath her and rarely are deserving of any compensation for taking on such a large feat.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
Malevolent and High Conflict Custody Cases with Narcissists
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If the thought of entering into a high-conflict custody case terrifies you, you are not alone. Most partners who are in a relationship with a narcissist are too terrified to leave them for fear of losing custody of their children. Sadly, even when the narcissist is toxic and immoral, he stands a better chance of winning custody than the overwrought, emotionally terrorized victim that he had been abusing and controlling long before the relationship fell apart. In 20 minutes, we will give you examples of high-conflict custody cases with narcissists who used sneaky and diabolical court tactics to win custody from a fit partner. If you walk into the court without having some knowledge of past cases and the narcissist’s tactics listed in audiobook one of this Divorce Court series, you will most likely be fighting a losing battle. Arm yourself with knowledge and power to gain a tactical advantage on the narcissist in court, and don’t become more of a victim to him than you already are. This audiobook refers to the narcissist as a "he", but the narcissist in the relationship and divorce proceedings can also be a "she". The pronouns are interchangeable for the purposes of this audiobook. Parental alienation Most narcissists won’t lift a finger while they are in a relationship to help with the child-rearing. However, don’t think this will stop the narcissist from filing for custody. The narcissist values money, status, popularity, power, and resources above all else. He doesn’t value family. He doesn’t want to pay you child support, plain and simple. This drive not to pay you a dime will make him do extraneous things that you never even thought were possible in the court game. Your head will be spinning at the levels he will stoop to in order to win and make you look like a grade-A loser. The narcissist has the upper hand in pitting kids against the other parent in court. If the children saw the narcissist beating the other parent or pushing the other parent to tears, the children won’t want to be the next victims. It is in a child’s nature to separate the good and the bad in their parents, always preferring to see the good in both parents over seeing any of the bad. The child will want to get the approval from the parent who might punish them if the child is "bad" and thus this fear of punishment by an abusive parent often drives the children to side with the abuser rather than be his target. Never be upset with your children for siding with the abuser. A child who sees their abused parent as weak and victimized will naturally want the victimized parent to do whatever they must to keep the peace. Download now to hear more.
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
Narcissistic Aspies and Schizoids
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In many of my books, we discuss the different tools that are in use by a narcissist who is being a nuisance to those around him. He uses threats, coercion, gas-lighting, manipulation, lying, cheating, triangulation and cognitive dissonance to prey on his victims. He forms trauma bonds with those who he is the closest to so that he always has an unlimited narcissistic supply from other people. He has to constantly feed his needs and his ego from external sources, because he is empty inside his soul from being a victim of another narcissistic injurer. What many people don't realize is that narcissistic personality disorder or traits of narcissism can occur in a person who has other personality disorders. Narcissism and other personality disorders are often caused by poor parenting (abuse, intrusiveness or neglect), poor experiences growing up, or other trauma in childhood or early adulthood. Because many of the personality disorders have elements of narcissism in them, it is debatable whether it does or does not belong by itself in the DSM diagnostic tool. This book seeks to point out the traits that might be seen in a narcissistic and self-absorbed individual who may have Schizoid Personality Disorder or Asperger's Syndrome. These individuals might resort to adapting OCPD (negative perfectionism) traits or narcissistic traits in order to overcome some of the disabilities of their underlying problem.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Journey into Cerebral Palsy
Summary
You didn't know your world would change. But it did. Take a walk with us as we journey into an illness most don't know about until they are affected by it. From four-time best-selling author J.B. Snow.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Chronic Pain and Sensitivity Brain Hacks
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Chronic pain and sensitivity. You have it. It’s negatively affecting everything in your life. It’s affecting your parental relationship with your kids. It’s affecting your romantic relationship with your partner. It’s affecting your working relationship with your boss and your coworkers. It’s affecting work, school, travel, hobbies, housework, eating, cooking, sex, and more. Chronic pain and sensitivity are disabling. You may wonder why you have chronic pain and sensitivity. This book will cover the causes that you may not be aware of. Chronic pain and sensitivity can impact areas of your life that you never thought about. It can drastically affect your financial security now and in the future. Chronic pain and sensitivity can negatively affect your decision-making, thought patterns and goal-setting. If you are constantly dealing with chronic pain, it is no doubt that you are stuck in survival mode. You can’t think much past your pain to plan or cope with anything else that is going on in your life. Your chronic pain and sensitivity is, no doubt, taking center stage even when you don’t want it to. You try to ignore it, but it’s no use. It is staring you right in the face, and it is threatening to disrupt the rest of your life. The truth of the matter is this: if you don’t deal with your chronic pain, it will deal with you. Not getting to the root of your chronic pain and sensitivity might leave you ultimately crippled to the point that you can no longer move or function in your life. Download now to hear more.
©2019 J.B. Snow and J.J. Stone (P)2019 J.B. Snow and J.J. Stone
Gaslighting Narcissist: Rebuke the Ultimate Mind Control
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Many of my listeners write to me, and they often want to know how to deal with a gaslighting narcissist. The narcissist twist and turns everything around, and he disorients you. You don’t know what is real and what is imagined anymore. You are helpless to the torture techniques and the mind control that is being launched on you right now. You might want to know what qualifies me to write a book about gaslighting. Well, I was the lucky victim of a mass gaslighting effort that spanned far too long and too wide. You would be shocked at how far and wide-reaching the infamous gaslighting event went with the narcissist who claimed to the high heavens that he didn’t have any friends (that turned out to be the furthest thing from the truth). NPD DSM Criteria Before we can analyze the narcissist, we must first get to know the narcissist and his true motivations and his true nature. We will analyze the traits of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM IV) criteria: A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) Requires excessive admiration Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors, or attitudes The definition of gaslighting A person who gaslights uses gaslighting as a coping mechanism to manage their world. The gaslighter is so neurotic and psychotic that he plays God with other people’s minds and lives. The gaslighting narcissist will never change - I repeat - he will never change. You are not going to save him, change him, reform him, make him see the light, teach him to be a better person, teach him to love, or love him into a healthier state. It isn’t possible. Cut your losses, and move on. Download now to hear more!
©2019 J.B. Snow Publishing (P)2019 J.B. Snow Publishing
Thick Skin: A Guide on How to Better Manage Your Interactions with Others
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Most of us don't feel that we have thick enough skin to deal with people, like our difficult coworker, our picky spouse, or our overbearing mother-in-law. At the end of the day, our nerves are left frazzled and we seek respite from the seemingly constant chaos that is our lives. This book will help you find your thick skin when you are interacting with the difficult people in your life. It will help you to figure out why they are being that way and what you can do to help yourself deal with them more effectively.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
How to Survive and Thrive in a Narcissistic Relationship
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Many of my listeners come to me with many questions about their interactions with narcissists. They want to know how to outsmart the narcissists who are making them feel as though they are going crazy. Some of them want to learn how to interact better with their narcissists. Many readers are truly baffled by their partners. They aren't sure whether to love them or leave them. People have many reasons for not wanting to leave relationships with narcissists. They may have children with the narcissists, and they may fear losing the custody battles to their narcissistic partners. Some of them don't have the financial means to leave the narcissists. They depend fully upon the narcissist's financial contribution to the family. Still others are afraid that they won't find love again after leaving narcissistic relationships. Many of these reasons are valid reasons to stay in a relationship with a narcissist. Relationships can be tricky and overwhelming. They can leave us in a heap, unsure of who we are anymore. Many of the people who reach out to me for help are scared, alone, and isolated by their narcissistic partners. They may be trauma bonded to their narcissistic partners, which is something that I cover in depth. A trauma-bonded partner is often similar to a rat in a cage who has been exposed to shock experiments. Once the rat is no longer shocked, it freezes in fear. It feels helpless and hopeless, so it doesn't bother even trying anymore. I am hoping that you have come to find this book in better spirits than my trauma-bonded listeners. You are hoping to restore some form of your life and your personality that existed before the narcissist was in your life. Your narcissist may also be a drug to you. You can't seem to get enough of something that seems to be sometimes unhealthy in your life. He makes you feel good sometimes but makes you feel dreadful at other times.
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
Why Your Ex Became a Deadbeat Parent (In 20 Minutes)
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Most parents don’t start out or aspire to be deadbeat parents…not really. They might be jerks or psychopaths or sociopaths or narcissists or curmudgeons or psychotic or unstable or unfit or insane or ill or unhappy or ill-tempered or emotional or delusional or unrealistic. They become deadbeat parents for a myriad of reasons that we will explore in this book. Some of the reasons you may have known about, but other reasons might be a surprise to you. These reasons are straight from the mouths of deadbeat parents all over the world who have been there and lost contact with their kids. There is a negative connotation and stigma when it comes to deadbeat parents. These parents have a variety of reasons for doing what they have done: abandoned their young. Sometimes it’s the court’s fault. Sometimes it’s the parent’s ill coping skills. Sometimes it’s a lack of an adequate support system or child-rearing in the deadbeat parent from their own childhood. Sometimes the deadbeat parent feels unfit and inferior. Or the deadbeat parent may feel ill attuned with one child while he connects with another child much better in a latter relationship. If you are still in the midst of a high conflict divorce or custody battle with a narcissist, you need to read J. B. Snow’s divorce court series. In the other books, we show you how to be likable in court so that you can gain a better edge in the battle against the narcissist. We show you how to negotiate and work with attorneys. We show you how to game the system and survive the battle emotionally so that you won’t fall into a ball of dribbling misery while you are navigating the contentious divorce and custody environment that your ex has created.
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
Cassandra Phenomenon: The Dangers of Marrying a Partner with OCPD, Asperger's Syndrome, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder, and Narcissistic Disorder
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You got the diagnosis. You knew that the other person was "different" or "eccentric" in many ways, but you didn't know why or how. Now you know that you are living with something called obsessive compulsive personality disorder, Asperger syndrome, Asperger's disorder, autism spectrum disorder, schizoid personality disorder, or narcissistic personality disorder. You might be relieved in many ways. You now can begin to understand why the other person gets frustrated so easily and so quickly. You begin to understand why he or she cannot think in the way that you can think or why he or she seems to be unable to plan out certain things. This person might be hung up on many of the words or sentences that you use. He or she might nitpick the way that you say things. You wonder why this person just can't infer things or read between the lines, like most other people seem to be able to do. You have an explanation for his or her crazy-making and infuriating behaviors. The person might need an excessive amount of time alone or might prefer to do many activities alone. This person is task oriented and object oriented. He or she rarely listens to your opinion and may ramble on and on about things he or she enjoys. This person never seems to be consistent in thought patterns, moods, morals, and values. He or she is easily defensive and offended. It is difficult to share your own interests in a conversation with people like this, because they are driven to talk only about themselves or things they are interested in. They seem to be in their heads much of the time or might be excessively involved in their hobbies or in their work.
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
Narcissistic Borderline Relationship: Stop Killing One Another, Start Living
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Many of my readers and listeners write to me, and they often want to know how to improve or fix a relationship between a narcissistic personality disordered (NPD) man and a borderline personality disordered (BPD) woman. This dynamic duo tends to get together a lot more than people seem to realize. This duo is one of the most difficult relationships to maintain but can also be one of the most rewarding love connections realized by both sides of the duo. When each partner learns the habits and needs of the other, they can seek to better fulfill each other's needs. This audiobook hopes to fill the gap for those listeners who are seeking to fine-tune their relationships or to improve an abusive or emotionally volatile relationship. We discuss NPD and BPD as they pertain to a heterosexual relationship, but the same rules apply if the roles are applied to a homosexual relationship. We hope to give new light to those who are choosing to stay in the relationship but want better ways to interact with their partner to make the relationship work. It is no surprise that this volatile couple needs more tools to deal with the complications of their relationship and to avoid a breakup or an abusive situation. The narcissist borderline couple tends to form because each person is attracted to the other based on his or her primitive childhood injury. Though both people grew up in different environments, each experienced some level of emotional and developmental trauma that draws them together. The bonding grows love while at the same time sometimes causing a trauma bonding to occur between the couple in the midst of toxic circumstances. Both sides of the couple are emotionally underdeveloped to some degree, and the high conflict in their relationship generally exposes this underdevelopment further. Before we can analyze these two individuals, it is important that we discuss the DSM criteria for both disorders fully. Both people should know where their strengths and weaknesses rely in their disorders in order to make intelligent decisions about their own needs and the needs of their partner.
©2019 J.B. Snow Publishing (P)2019 J.B. Snow Publishing
Cyclothymic Disorder and Cyclothymia
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Do you feel like your moods control your life? Do you dread planning or scheduling anything because you don't know how you will feel that day? Do you avoid friends and family members because you know that your moods have a negative effect on them? Do your moods control your ability to successfully survive in the world and to ensure your own survival? Many people who have mood swings suffer from conditions such as Asperger's syndrome, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and cyclothymic disorder. They feel paralyzed in their ability to live life to its fullest. They feel as though they are a prisoner to their mental health disorder or personality disorder. They want to be understood and empathized with, but they often suffer the stigma that comes with their disorder. Did you know that cyclothymic disorder can turn into bipolar disorder and schizophrenia if it is not treated? Don't risk your mental health by stressing and overworking your brain and body. Take steps now to improve your mental health and your physical well-being. People who do not take steps to improve their mental health symptoms early in life often suffer from Alzheimer's, dementia, and psychotic episodes later in life. These are devastating conditions for yourself and your loved ones to suffer through. This audiobook seeks to explain what cyclothymic disorder is, what its symptoms look like, and what can happen when a person has cyclothymic disorder. We also discuss 22 treatment options for people who suffer from cyclothymia and other mood disorders. This audiobook can be used by someone who is suffering from cyclothymic disorder, as well as friends and family members of someone who suffers from cyclothymic disorder. Download now for more!
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
How to Heal You: PTSD and Complex PTSD Survival Guide
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What makes me qualified to write this book? Simple. I have been in your shoes. I have experienced a great deal of trauma, many of the circumstances that you have previously dealt with, or those you are dealing with now. I have come through the dust. I have persevered. I am still standing here to tell my story and to tell how I healed from it. I won’t bore you with all of the circumstances of my life. Suffice to say that I have been through nearly everything my readers have emailed me about, in one way or another. Or, I have been very close to it. From very early on, I involved myself in the lives of others because I am a natural empath and a healer. I’ve seen it all, from rape to murder to suicide to evil to breakups to divorce to disabilities to mental disorders to addiction to imprisonment to poverty...the list goes on. I welcome you to send me your story, because I am a good listener. I think that telling your story takes a load off your mind. It helps you to clear your brain. It helps you to validate what you have gone through and to feel accepted despite what you have gone through. It helps you remember that you are human. It helps remind you that you have suffered through a lot. You can sit and go through those circumstances over and over again like a broken record. You can sit in a counselor’s office for years on end, spewing your story over and over again. Suffering from it all the while that you are talking about it. Maybe it will desensitize you to the things that trigger you and the pain that is caused by the triggers, if you are lucky. Or, you can move on and find the purpose and the reason that you are here. The reason that you went through those trials and tribulations is because you were meant to learn and to come out on the other side stronger.
©2017 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow