Lana Otoya has 4 audiobooks on Listento.it, narrated by 4 narrators, with an average listener rating of 4.8★ across 4 ratings. The most-rated is Rumination: Learn to Overcome Your Destructive Thoughts and Start Thinking Positively.
Rumination: Learn to Overcome Your Destructive Thoughts and Start Thinking Positively
Summary
Does the idea of thinking positively sound like the devil inviting you into the depths of hell? Those of us who suffer from anxiety, depression, and rumination know that "thinking positively" is easier said than done. We reject it by rolling our eyes and dismissing the idea because for some reason, it just doesn't feel good to think positively. Why is it that your mind is rejecting an idea that you know is probably good for you? The answer is the path of least resistance. Your brain is like a city with roads. In your city, you have positive buildings (aka positive thoughts) and negative buildings (negative thoughts). Every time you think negatively, you build a road to a negative building. Every time you think positively, you build a road to a positive building. If you’re always thinking about negative things, the roads leading to your negative buildings will be nicely paved highways with no speed limit. They will be your paths of least resistance. Then, someone like me (hello!) comes a long and says “you should think positively” which means you should go to a positive building in brain city. You’ll think about that for a moment and then realize… the roads to the positive buildings are no good! They are unpaved dirt roads that are windy and uphill. They are the path of maximum resistance because you haven’t spent any time building those roads. If you are depressed, anxious, or suffer from rumination, your roads to positive buildings are not fun to drive on and when you drive on them, it won’t be easy. You have a lot of work to do to build those positive roads, but once you get them all built up your negative roads won’t be so tempting. This audiobook will teach you to build positive roads. You will learn: The scientifically proven reasons why you ruminate and have anxiety The easiest ways to control your thoughts The differences between unhealthy rumination and healthy rumination Step-by-step methods on how to turn unhealthy rumination into healthy thoughts The tools you need to make positive thinking easy How to Stop THINKING about your life and start LIVING it Start learning the tools you need to reach peace of mind TODAY.
©2018 Lana Otoya (P)2018 Lana Otoya
The Mindset of Small Talk
Summary
Wouldn't it be nice to chat with anybody without having to come up with things to say? One of the nicest ladies I ever met was a school teacher. I was chatting with her on a film set once because we were using her daughter in a commercial. This lady was (and I repeat) one of the nicest people I have ever met. I think we chatted for about 30 minutes and then I never saw her again. Thirty minutes. I seriously thought that I could trust this lady with all my deepest darkest secrets. That I could call her up one day and ask her to go for coffee and she’d say yes. How could this lady make such an impression on me in such a short amount of time? Well, she had mastered the two keys you need to be a perfect small talker. These two things are revealed in my book and once you know them, everything gets so much easier. My name is Lana and I am a relationship and self-care blogger. Before I started a blog, I was a seriously introverted university student trying to get through film school without having to small-talk with my classmates at lunch. Little did I know back then, the film industry is all about networking and creating relationships with people you barely know. Once I started actually working in film, I was forced into learning how to small talk and how to get along with people. I was able to do this by observing others and stealing their techniques. People like that lovely high school teacher became my role models, I needed to do what they were doing. After years of observation, I realized that all master small-talkers have a few things in common but the biggest things are the two keys that were shown to me so elegantly by that school teacher. Once I had mastered those, no small talk conversation was a nightmare anymore. In fact, I started to enjoy them. My book will show you: The two keys you need to master small talk, and neither of them involve conversation starters How to shift your perspective on small talk so that it takes the pressure off The reason why small talk is not about entertaining others but is actually for you The difference between a good conversation starter and a bad one Small talk for people with social anxiety Small talk for introverts Small talk for dating, making friends, and networking How to improve your self esteem How to help in building confidence How to never fear the dreaded small talk conversation ever again! If you've read this far, you're already 500 words into transforming yourself into a real people person. Don't hesitate to make this simple yet super-effective change in your life. Download my book and instantly start improving your conversation skills today.
©2018 Lana Otoya (P)2018 Lana Otoya
Signs of Emotional Abuse
Summary
What is the line between emotional abuse and normal human behavior? And who gets the right to draw that line? Are you feeling depressed and anxious because your mental health simply isn't doing well right now? Or is it a direct response to the emotional trauma that is being caused by an unhealthy relationship? These are all difficult questions to answer, and I understand how hard it can be to diagnose emotional abuse from the inside of a relationship. After having experienced an emotionally difficult relationship myself, I only came to truly realize how damaging it was after I had left the relationship. Why couldn't I see abuse while I was in the relationship? Ever since then, I have seen many friends get very comfortable in relationships that last for years but that I would consider abusive. Why is it that so many people find their way into relationships like this? The answer is because it's nearly impossible to see abuse from the inside. I made it a mission of mine to find out exactly how to diagnose an abusive relationship from inside a relationship, so that anyone going through abuse or trauma can find a way out. Abusive behavior can be hard to define or prove and many people think that abuse is an “opinion”. I know a couple where the man is emotionally abused by the woman. I have often heard his friends say things like “well if she makes him happy then it’s okay”, or “if he’s okay with it then I guess it’s alright.” If you were saying these things about your own relationship you might say “yeah, but I don’t mind it when he does that” or “but I know she doesn’t mean it that way”. You are saying these things as if abuse is an opinion-based thing when it really isn’t. There is a line that changes things and moves behavior over into the abuse category and you do not get to determine where that line is. Abuse is not an opinion. This book will show you when behavior turns into abuse. The good news about abuse not being an opinion is that there is a line to be drawn, all you have to do is find that line - and that's where I come in. This book includes: Exact definitions on the different kinds of emotional abuse and manipulation tactics used by abusers. If your abuser takes part in these behaviors, the line has been drawn. Quizzes, case studies and examples to help you see your relationship from the outside in. These exercises will help you answer questions as if you were an observer in the relationship helping you see things more clearly. My theory for why good people and good relationships turn into bad ones and how this can happen to anyone. A road map and way to escape. Step by step instructions on how to confront an abuser and plan an escape out of an abusive relationship.
©2019 Lana Otoya (P)2019 Lana Otoya
The Mindset of Self-Confidence: Why Self-Confidence Has Nothing to Do with Speaking up or Standing Straight
Summary
I see a lot of self-help videos and books telling people to "stand straight" or "look people in the eye" in order to look more confident.
But you don't want to look more confident, do you? You actually want to be more confident, to feel it deep inside you.
This is exactly how I felt when I was starting to research self-confidence. I thought to myself: "Ok, I'll look people in the eye when I talk but, what do I say?"
Sure, I'll speak up more in meetings, but how? When the voice inside my head is going crazy about how I might sound weird or the question I'm asking might sound dumb.
My problem wasn't that I was struggling with "getting out of my comfort zone" or "speaking up more", it was more my inner voice worrying and overthinking. An inner voice that was holding me back from my true potential.
In fact, it might sound contradictory, but inside my own head I was pretty confident. I liked who I was as a person, I was just introverted and didn't feel the need to fake a personality or fake interest in a conversation if I wasn't feeling like engaging. This left me being the quiet one in the room and although I was sure of who I was as a person, I felt like people were thinking that I was too quiet or shy.
So is confidence about how I feel? Or how they see me?
These are the questions I wanted to answer in my book. What does TRUE confidence really mean and how does it feel. I knew it wasn't just about looking taller or having the loudest voice in the room, so what was it really about? and how can I get THAT.
So I created my book, The Mindset of Confidence.
There's nothing in this audiobook about trying to "appear" to be confident, it's about figuring out what confidence really is, how it really feels, and how you can truly achieve confidence from within.
This audiobook includes:
A look into my personal battle with being introverted/shy, and how that can co-exist with confidence
A secret method that I created that allows you to look confident without feeling like you're pretending to be someone you're not
An action plan you can take to fight overthinking and the destructive inner voice that kills confidence
A plan of attack for how you can take the methods in the book and actually apply them to your real life
When I discovered what true confidence really meant, it was a complete game changer. I no longer have to have that battle in my head about being introverted or shy while also being confident. I can honestly say that I am both introverted and confident, and I don't have to pretend to be outgoing and extroverted to feel confident and show confidence to others.
If you'd like to achieve this level of true inner confidence, I urge you to grab a copy of my book, The Mindset of Self-Confidence today.
©2019 Lana Otoya (P)2019 Lana Otoya