Lauren Kozlowski has 11 audiobooks on Listento.it, narrated by 2 narrators, with an average listener rating of 4.1★ across 25 ratings. The most-rated is Narcissistic Ex.
Narcissistic Ex
Summary
Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem. I was a victim of a malignant narcissist for seven years of my life, and I know just how crushing it is to live such an abusive and suppressed life. The helplessness and detachment from reality that comes with narcissistic abuse are enough to keep you in the tight grip of the abuser for as long as they choose. However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn’t end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn’t that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up, they don't just "let you go" - they try to make sure you’ll go through hell before you get one over on them. In this audiobook, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they’re your ex. The chapter list is as follows: Why you shouldn’t go back and why you need to move on Why you need to go "no contact" and ways you can do this How to stop missing your abuser Understanding and dealing with "hoovering’" after a break-up Narcissistic stalking How to deal with "flying monkeys" Survivor stories from two former narcissistic abuse victims Throughout the audiobook, I also offer some of my own story too, in the hopes that this offers you a sense of familiarity. You’ll likely find that thing things I went through are very similar to your own experiences, and the purpose of this audiobook is to get you to the point where I’m currently at: healed and thriving.
©2019 Escape The Narcissist (P)2019 Escape The Narcissist
Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Trauma Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship
Summary
"If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?" "If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?" "If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?" If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and feel like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If, in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too - because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex. From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following: What trauma bonding really is The seven stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding The five stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded - the cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause Breaking free from the traumatic bond This book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken.
©2020 Escape The Narcissist (P)2020 Escape The Narcissist
Dating Red Flags
Summary
Do you have a gut feeling about your partner that you just can’t shake? Or maybe you’ve spotted some red flag behavior from your other half, but you’re not sure if it’s just you "being paranoid" or if it’s warning behavior that needs to be addressed. Either way, it’s in your best interest to take heed of the way you’re feeling and delve a little deeper into your primal instincts. Are those "jokey" digs or are they something more sinister? Are their lies something that can be brushed off or do you need to question their dishonesty? Does your date act differently in front of you compared to how they behave in front of other people? Do you fear their reaction to certain topics or conversations, and does this make you uneasy around them? This audiobook was written by a survivor of narcissistic abuse and aims to provide support and validation for others, to stop them from entering an abusive relationship. It serves to stop an abuser in their tracks by showing you the red flags you ought to take notice of before they escalate their behavior. This audiobook offers 20 red flags that shouldn’t be ignored - no matter how invested in your spouse you may be.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2019 Lauren Kozlowski
Malignant Narcissism & Narcissistic Ex: 2-in-1 Collection to Help You Understand & Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
Summary
I suffered at the hands of a malignant narcissist for seven years. I was emotionally tortured by his nasty, venomous words, his hateful behavior towards me and his sadistic enjoyment of anything that upset me. For years I was under his control, beaten down to the point where I had no perception of reality. I was a shell of a human. I wrote this book for anyone else who is suffering at the hands of a malignant narcissist. I want to offer not only healing words but also guide you through understanding the disorder in order to better help you deal with it. The book includes: Explaining what malignant narcissism is Translating the language of a malignant narcissist Discussing if a narcissist can ever change The dangers of a malignant narcissist The traits in you that the narcissist saw as "prey" Trauma bonding Through this book, there are also stories from other survivors scattered between chapters. Hearing the tales of others can give you inspiration and courage when you need it most. To beat the narcissist, you need to know the narcissist - and that's where this book comes in. Narcissistic Ex: Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem. I was a victim of a malignant narcissist for seven years of my life, and I know just how crushing it is to live such an abusive and suppressed life. The helplessness and detachment from reality that come with narcissistic abuse are enough to keep you in the tight grip of the abuser for as long as they choose. However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn't end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn't that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up. They don't just "let you go" - they try to make sure you'll go through hell before you get one over on them.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2019 Lauren Kozlowski
Coercive Control
Summary
The devastation of a controlling relationship has to be endured to be believed. From the constant fear of upsetting your spouse, the walking on eggshells in case you've done or said something wrong, or the relentless feeling of anxiety - a controlling partner will beat you down until you no longer recognize yourself. Coercive control will see an abuser dominate their victim's life, from the food they eat, the people they see, the places they can go, and the things they can say. A controlling partner, through fear and intimidation, will seek to ensure their victim is subdued, to the point of accepting any and all abuse that's fired their way. By manipulation, gaslighting, lies, and hurtful insults, the abuser will make their victim a willing puppet on a string, ready to be utilized how the controlling spouse sees fit. Coercive control is seldom talked about in comparison to other forms of abuse, yet it's so commonplace in relationships. Plenty of victims of this type of behavior may not even be aware that's it's full-blown abuse. Many more see controlling behavior as their partner's way of showing they "care". In order to shed light on this topic and reach out to those who need help in understanding and overcoming a controlling partner, I have created this book as their starting point. I was shackled to a malignant narcissist for many years of my life, being controlled and manipulated, day in, day out. As a proud survivor of abuse, I feel obligated to help others in their journey toward getting their power back and recovering from the cruel effects of an abusive relationship. This audiobook will cover the following: What coercive control is The devastating effects of a controlling relationship Financial coercion Breaking the spell of abuse Coercive control after separating I use my own experiences, as well as those of the survivors I've connected with via Escape the Narcissist, to help piece together the things you need to know about this type of abusive relationship. Together, we will reclaim our power.
©2020 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2020 Lauren Kozlowski
Narcissistic Relationship Recovery
Summary
This is a two-book collection of previously released books by Lauren Kozlowski, Trauma Bonding and Coercive Control. Trauma Bonded: "If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?" "If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?" "If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?" If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, while it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling, too, because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex. From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following: What trauma bonding really is The seven stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding The five stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded The cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause Breaking free from the traumatic bond This book will also include my own experiences, and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken. Coercive Control: The devastation of a controlling relationship has to be endured to be believed. From the constant fear of upsetting your spouse, the walking on eggshells in case you've done or said something wrong, or the relentless feeling of anxiety, a controlling partner will beat you down until you no longer recognize yourself. Coercive control will see an abuser dominate their victim's life; from the food they eat, the people they see, the places they can go and the things they can say. A controlling partner, through fear and intimidation, will seek to ensure their victim is subdued, to the point of accepting any and all abuse that's fired their way. By manipulation, gaslighting, lies, and hurtful insults, the abuser will make their victim a willing puppet on a string, ready to be utilized how the controlling spouse sees fit. Coercive control is seldom talked about in comparison to other forms of abuse, yet it's so commonplace in relationships. Plenty of victims of this type of behavior may not even be aware that's it's full-blown abuse. Many more see controlling behavior as their partner's way of showing they "care". In order to shed light on this topic, and reach out to those who need help in understanding and overcoming a controlling partner, I have created this book as their starting point. I was shackled to a malignant narcissist for many years of my life, being controlled and manipulated, day-in, day-out.
©2020 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2020 Lauren Kozlowski
Malignant Narcissism
Summary
Malignant narcissism is a psychological disorder that's an extreme mix of narcissism, antisocial behavior, aggressiveness, and sadism. It has all of the characteristics of narcissism - but it takes them to the extreme. I suffered at the hands of a malignant narcissist for seven years. I was emotionally tortured by his nasty, venomous words, his hateful behavior towards me, and his sadistic enjoyment of anything that upset me. For years I was under his control, systematically beaten down to the point where I had no perception of reality or self-worth. I was a shell of a human. I wrote this book as a resource for anyone else who is suffering at the hands of a malignant narcissist. I want to offer not only healing words but also guide you through understanding the disorder in order to better help you deal with it. The book includes sections on: Explaining what malignant narcissism is Translating the language of a malignant narcissist Discussing if a narcissist can ever change The dangers of a malignant narcissist The traits in you that the narcissist saw as "prey" Trauma bonding Escaping the narcissist Through this audiobook, there are also stories from other survivors scattered between sections. These real-life experiences from those who've had to endure malignant narcissism serve to offer you some familiarity. Hearing the tales of others can give you inspiration and courage when you need it most. To beat the narcissist, you need to really know the narcissist - and that's where this audiobook comes in.
©2019 Escape the Narcissist (P)2019 Escape the Narcissist
How to Go No Contact With a Narcissist
Summary
In order to overcome a narcissistic relationship, there are two ways out: Be discarded for the final time from the narcissist, or go no contact and cut yourself away from your abuser. Neither option is pretty, and I can’t deny that both are painful. However, when you claim back your power by making the decision to go no contact, you give yourself the ability to leave the relationship with dignity, newfound self-respect, and the makings of a solid foundation to build your future on. This book, penned from my own experience of leaving my abuser and implementing no contact, goes over the following: Leaving a narcissist How I left my abuser How to implement no contact yourself My first week of no contact How to maintain no contact when you feel weak Triangulation and my experiences with this How to bounce back if you've broken no contact Affirmations to help you stay strong and maintain firm boundaries This book can be your source of support to help you through the difficult and heart-breaking time you endure at the end of an abusive relationship. Most importantly, however, it will offer you the tools you need to stick with no contact and make sure you gain the strength you need to be consistent.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2020 Lauren Kozlowski
Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse
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This collection includes the already released titles: Narcissistic Rage How to go No Contact with a Narcissist What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship Dating Red Flags I've been through the trenches of narcissistic abuse. I've endured the hurt, heartache, and humiliation at the hands of the one person who ought to care for me: my partner. He would belittle me, berate me, and make me feel full of self-doubt and dread. Being told I was worthless, useless, and that I was lucky to have him eventually took its toll, and I ended up broken and shattered. I've compiled these four books as a collection for those who are enduring the same kind of abuse as I did, in the hope that this can be their one-stop resource for those who need advice and understanding during such a turbulent time. I want to offer comfort, guidance, and strength to those who are going through the same torturous relationship as I did, and show them that there is a way out.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2020 Lauren Kozlowski
Narcissistic Rage: Understanding & Coping with Narcissistic Rage, Silent Treatment & Gaslighting
Summary
Hurtful criticism. Nasty "jokes". Angry outbursts for seemingly no reason. Verbal attacks toward your innocent comments. Stone-cold silent treatment. Manipulative actions to ensure you don't know if you're coming or going. Sound familiar? The phrase to summarize the above abhorrent treatment is narcissistic rage. The words "narcissistic" and "rage" are bad enough by themselves. When you merge them together, it becomes a force to be reckoned with; a volatile tornado that can emotionally destroy anything that dares enter its path. The term is as frightening and daunting as it sounds, and enduring the full force of narcissistic rage is enough to mentally and emotionally defeat just about anyone who gets in the way. This book will address the following: What is narcissistic rage? What are the types of narcissistic rage? What causes this rage to erupt? What is the silent treatment and how to handle it? What are gaslighting and temper tantrums? This audiobook aims to give you a better understanding of narcissistic rage and the deadly silent treatments that comes alongside it. I endured an abusive narcissistic relationship for a long time and have used my experience to connect with other survivors to help them heal, too.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2019 Lauren Kozlowski
What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship
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Breaking up in normal circumstances is hard enough. If you throw a narcissist into the equation, it makes it all the more difficult. Not only are you left heartbroken from the separation, but the actions and behaviors of the narcissist post-break-up are nothing short of cruel, confusing, and downright crazymaking. You feel like your world has ended and you don’t know how to rebuild it. In this short audiobook, I want to use my own experience with a narcissist to highlight and outline the following for you: discarding, and why the narcissist does this. This is a cruel tactic used by the narcissist to either punish you or because you have nothing left to give them. what a narcissist does at the end of a relationship. Whilst all narcissists are different, you can count on one thing being consistent: their behavior. how the narc feels and deals with the break-up. the toxic narcissistic relationship pattern, so you can avoid being sucked into it once more. If you're looking to listen to this audiobook, you're likely heartbroken and looking for some guidance, support, or understanding. As someone who has been through the hell of a narcissistic relationship, I can offer you all three, and I hope this audiobook can help you make sense of this heartbreaking time.
©2019 Lauren Kozlowski (P)2019 Lauren Kozlowski