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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

37 ratings


To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go. Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems: What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable? Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself? What is your sex life really like, and how important is it? Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable? Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

Narrator: Adriane McNeely
Length: 8 hrs and 33 mins
Available on Audible
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When Good People Have Affairs

8 ratings


A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads listeners through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies 17 types of affairs, helping listeners figure out which type they're in and what it means. (Is it a "see-if" affair? Ejector-seat affair? Distraction affair? Unmet-needs affair? Panic affair?) Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: What am I missing in my marriage? How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

©2008 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2017 Tantor

Narrator: Callie Beaulieu
Length: 6 hrs and 28 mins
Available on Audible
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Everything Happens for a Reason


In each of our lives we are faced with events that seem inexplicable, unjust, even cruel - events that can shatter our perception of the world, our understanding of ourselves, and our faith in a higher power. Friends and family members often offer comfort with "Everything happens for a reason" - a simple, common phrase with an unbearably elusive meaning.  In Everything Happens for a Reason, psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum helps us understand the principles behind this frequently used phrase and provides us with tools to grasp its true meaning. According to Kirshenbaum, there is significance to each of the events in our lives. We all can discover meaning in what has happened to us - seeing such occurrences as gifts, lessons, or opportunities that we might not have been able to get any other way. Building on more than 25 years of clinical research, Kirshenbaum has developed tests to help listeners decode the confusing or unfortunate events in their lives and find solace and strength in the positive outcomes that exist.

©2004 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2019 Tantor

Available on Audible