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Insecure Attachment

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Do you find it difficult to maintain a successful romantic relationship? Do you see the same behavior patterns emerge in your relationships from time to time? Are you constantly worried that everything will end in a heartbreak? Is it possible to predict in advance the probability of a relationship's success or failure? Whether we are aware of it or not, our childhood experiences play a huge role in producing the type of people we become. The relationships we experience as children, with our parents or other primary caregivers, have a profound effect on how we react to situations throughout our lives and how we interact with the people around us. As young children, we instinctively respond to the type of love and support offered by our parents or carers. While a strong bond with our primary caregiver is critical to our development in these early years, any difficulties resulting from this attachment can lead to problems with relationships and self-image in later life. In fact, dysfunctional or incorrect dysfunctional attachment patterns can lead us to make poor emotional choices or enter dysfunctional and unstable relationships that can be characterized by violence, oppression, or submission. Human relationships can give rise to the constant presence of fear of abandonment, associated with controlling behaviors, a continuous search for reassurance, emotional hypervigilance, and sometimes, even emotional blackmail. Whether you like it or not, attachment styles inevitably determine intimate relationships between people. Knowing what they are and managing them efficiently guarantees you a positive and stable vision of your relationships for life. If you are tired of living a life full of complicated and painful relationships and would like to learn to cultivate them in healthy and safe places, scroll up and click on the "buy now" button.

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2020 David Lawson, PhD

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Attachment Theory Workbook

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Do you find it difficult to maintain a successful romantic relationship? Do you see the same behaviour patterns in yourself emerging in your relationships, time and time again? Are you constantly worried that everything will end in heartbreak? Is it possible to predict the likelihood of the success or failure of a relationship in advance? Whether we are aware of it or not, our childhood experiences play a huge role in forming the kind of people that we become. The relationships that we have had as children with our parents, or other primary caregivers, have a profound effect on how we react to any given situation in our lives; and, how we interact with the people around us. As small children, we instinctively respond to the kind of love and support offered by our parents or guardians. While a strong bond with our primary caregiver is fundamental to our development in these early years, any difficulties arising from this attachment can lead to problems with relationships and self-image in later life. In fact, unworked or incorrect dysfunctional attachment models can lead us to make poor emotional choices, or enter into dysfunctional and unstable relationships that may be characterised by violence, oppression, or submission. Human relationships can give rise to the constant presence of a fear of abandonment, associated with control behaviours, a continuous search for reassurance, emotional hypervigilance, and sometimes even emotional blackmail. Whether you like it or not, attachment styles inevitably shape intimate relationships between people. Knowing what they are and managing them efficiently guarantees you a positive and stable outlook on your relationships for life. This audiobook is suggested reading if your relationship is characterized by: Dissatisfaction and/or high levels of conflict. Obsessiveness, intrusiveness, jealousy, and distrust. A strong desire for fusion and concern about rejection and abandonment. Interpersonal distance. A low level of emotional involvement. Problems with intimacy, and an inability to enjoy or flourish within sexual relationships. Don’t worry if you identify with all or any of these issues. The patterns and beliefs we develop as children, although often deeply rooted in our psyche, can be unlearned and replaced with positive beliefs and approaches that allow you to take a more constructive path through life. If, however, you don't address such issues, then you will carry their negative influence with you, leading to the unwelcome and repetitive situations that you have become familiar with. Fortunately, David Lawson, based on the work of his predecessors, has developed a book with which he has helped many people to recognise their role in early childhood relationships, and then to use this recognition to project the future success of their romantic or intimate relationships. So, even if your emotional life and its impact on your relationships is not as you would like it to be, it is possible to assess, comprehend and eventually work to overcome your situation. Understanding how to release attachment issues is one of the most satisfying and valuable things you can do for yourself. You will open the doors to a greater sense of self-worth, successful friendships, strong family ties, and lasting and loving romantic relationships. If you are tired of living a life filled with complicated and painful relationships and would like to learn how to cultivate them to be safe and healthy places instead, then get this audiobook now!

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2019 David Lawson PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 3 hrs and 1 min
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Oppositional Defiant Disorder

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Do your child's outbursts of anger, power struggles, blackmail, and rebellion prevent your family from living a simple peaceful day? Does it constantly disturb your day, thinking that at any moment you might get a call from your child's school telling you that your child has intentionally caused damage again?  Have the various strategies you have always used in an attempt to resolve the situation failed?  Oppositional defiant disorder is a behavioural disorder that occurs in children of school or preschool age, and is characterised by anger, irritability, revenge, and aversion behaviour, that frequently manifests in your child for a period of at least six months.  School teachers use basic methods; those learned at home or in their schools when they were pupils and students, and often find themselves able to do nothing but raise their voices, marginalize and give bad grades to children who are vulnerable to these types of issues.  Instead of improving the situation and the lives of these children, they create a climate in which behaviour gets dramatically worse.  In a social context, these children are marginalised, bullied and classified as "monsters", labels that do nothing but feed the vicious circle of poor behaviour, isolation and social stigma.  If not resolved in time, these problems cause impairment in social adaptation and social functionality, increasing the risk of anxiety disorders, depressive disorders and leading to potentially serious consequences that could otherwise, with the right techniques, be avoided.  In fact, more and more parents and educators are turning to methods proven by psychologists, methods based on specific cases, becoming experts and abandoning old methods that have perpetually proved to be ineffective. You are advised to listen to this book if, in the last six months, your child has been overwhelmed by: Anger - often manifesting itself in aggression, resentfulness, vindictiveness and spitefulness. Quarrelling with adults, an inability to comply with rules, a desire to provoke and irritate people. Habitually accusing others of their mistakes or poor behaviour, susceptibility to being easily provoked and irritated by others.   What you need to do now: Listen to those who have encountered this problem and have experienced its dynamics. Avoid confrontation with other parents who do not empathise with this situation and who may offer negative advice, worsening your relationship with your child. Your son or daughter is not a monster. These children/teenagers often suffer terribly and sometimes express their discomfort in ways we do not understand. Listening to this book tomorrow will not magically solve all your child's problems, but I guarantee that if you listen and re-listen to each chapter carefully, absorb all the tips, and apply the techniques provided by this audio manual, then you will be well on the way to rebuilding a healthy relationship with your son or daughter, and increasing the chances of a brighter future for you both. What are you waiting for? Scroll up, and click on the "buy now" button!

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2019 David Lawson PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 3 hrs and 15 mins
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Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook

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Has separation anxiety, fear of abandonment, self-harm, and emotional instability prevented you from experiencing what should have been the typical life of a "normal" person? Have negative thoughts assaulted you on every side, taking control, and proving stubbornly resistant to all attempts to drive them away? Have you had emotions that sometimes you can't even name? Anger, fear, sadness and shame are notoriously difficult emotions to manage as nature has forged their purpose purely to protect us. Sometimes trauma can interfere with your ability to regulate your emotions, amplifying them and generating devastating effects for yourself and for others. If you live with a Borderline Disorder, you will likely have been prey to intense and fluctuating emotions, struggling every day with troubling thoughts and behavior; finding difficulties being understood by others and being troubled in your relationships. Borderline Personality Disorders are officially recognized as DSM 5 and still remain a stigma, fueled by ignorance and misinformation that causes unnecessary and undeserved shame and isolation for its victims. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, has rapidly become one of the most popular and most effective treatments for the range of mental health conditions that are rooted in out-of-control emotions. DBT was created for the treatment of individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts, but has now matured into a treatment for a whole range of other conditions that involve dysfunctional emotional regulation. It is currently considered the "gold standard" for Borderline Personality Disorders and has even been used in the treatment of substance abuse and eating disorders. I recommend that you listen to this audiobook if, in the last three months, you have found yourself overpowered by: Anxiety, depression, and anger, often for reasons that others find difficult to understand or that they consider futile. Intense or uncontrollable emotional explosions. Instability in interpersonal relationships and self-esteem. Concerns about abandonment. Feeling desperately misunderstood. Feelings of helplessness and despair. Practices of self-harm and notions of suicide. Doubts about yourself and your sanity. And many others... Do the following symptoms sound familiar for you? You should address these issues by: Listening to those who understand this problem and have experienced the dynamics just listed. Informing yourself: read articles, watch videos, and access people who have the expertise to alleviate the destructive damage that emotional storms can create. This audiobook will most likely not be "the complete cure" for all your problems. But i guarantee that if you listen and listen again every single section carefully, absorb all the advice and apply the techniques provided by this manual, you will immediately feel a sensation of relief, and see noticeable improvements in every aspect of your life as the days progress.

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2019 David Lawson PhD

Narrator: Kirk Hensley
Length: 2 hrs and 36 mins
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

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Do intrusive thoughts stifle your days? Are you overwhelmed and paralyzed by constant doubts? Are anxiety and depression preventing you from living the life you want? Anger, fear, sadness, and shame are notoriously difficult emotions to manage because nature has forged their purpose purely to protect us. Sometimes, trauma can interfere with your ability to regulate your emotions, amplifying them and generating devastating effects for you and others. It is very difficult to ignore these emotions. Sometimes, they get in the way, impede your progress, and make an intimate relationship or career advancement impossible. Although we can't control many of the things that happen to us, we can certainly control how we react to those things. Only by knowing how your mind works can you change your life. From this audiobook, you will learn: How CBT works How mental patterns are established and vicious circles are blocked What emotional levers are and how to react to them How to eliminate anxiety, depression, and panic attacks How to set goals and begin to use CBT What are the basic and advanced techniques of CBT How to challenge (and beat) negative and automatic thoughts How to prevent relapses This audiobook will most likely not be the "complete cure" for all your problems. However, I guarantee that if you listen and relisten to every single chapter carefully, absorb all the advice, and apply the techniques provided by this manual, you will immediately experience a feeling of relief, and you will see significant improvements and progress in every aspect of your life.

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2020 David Lawson, PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 3 hrs and 8 mins
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Codependency

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Are you having trouble fostering healthy relationships? Are you stressed, feeling drained, and exhausted from giving too much in your relationships? Do you know who you are? What you need? What you like? Or do you feel that you need to be validated and approved by a partner (or any other person) to feel good about yourself? If your life has been overshadowed by an addiction, trauma, or toxic shame, you are probably fighting with an invisible enemy; an enemy that is particularly difficult to vanquish: codependency. Codependency is notoriously difficult to combat because there is no precise definition of the disorder. The signs and symptoms also differ for everyone. It is often mistaken for narcissism or other personality disorders that do not reflect the true situation. Experts say that it is a pattern of behavior in which a person finds themselves dependent on someone else's approval for their self-esteem and identity. People who suffer from this disorder tend to mask what they really feel. At other times, they are not even aware of what they are doing. This only serves to cloud the overall picture by delaying positive interventions, which, sometimes will never come. I recommend that you listen to this audiobook if: You are not aware of how you truly feel You have difficulty identifying your feelings You have difficulty expressing your feelings You tend to minimize, modify, or even deny the reality of what you feel You tend to worry and/or fear how others may respond to how you feel You give power over your feelings to others Act now before it's too late! If a codependent denies his destructive behavior, he can pass it on to his children. If the child does not realize the behavioral model of the parents and its negative impact, it will generate the same patterns as an adult. An endless cycle can be established. Commit to breaking this cycle and regain control of your life. Buy this book today.

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2020 David Lawson, PhD

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Borderline Personality Disorder

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Are you trapped in a toxic relationship? Have you been led to believe that it’s you who’s always wrong? Are uncontrolled emotions isolating you and destroying everything they touch? Are you afraid of what will happen if you decide to break out of your relationship? Being in a relationship with a person who has a borderline personality means living a love-hate relationship that’s obsessive, complicated, and unstable. Unfortunately, these kinds of relationships can be particularly difficult to escape from. However long the relationship has lasted, a relationship with a person who has BPD typically creates a destabilizing impact on the psyche of those who live with it and leaves emotional wounds that are very difficult to heal. Sadly, sometimes, these relationships produce more than just psychological wounds. Stalking, threats, and physical violence are all possibilities when a person breaks up with someone who has a serious borderline personality disorder. Threats of suicide, self-harm, or even revenge attempts are all common issues in such situations. Sufferers of BPD live at the limit, they are acrobats in a precarious balance on a razor’s edge. This audiobook is essential listening if, in the last three months, a person that you are close to has been overwhelmed by: Anxiety, depression, and anger, often for reasons that others find difficult to understand or that they consider inconsequential Intense or uncontrollable emotional explosions Instability in interpersonal relationships and self-esteem Concerns about abandonment Desperate feelings of being misunderstood Feelings of powerlessness and despair Ideas about self-harm and/or suicide Doubts about themselves and their sanity Do the following symptoms play families? A person who comes into close contact with a sufferer of BPD will, over time, be exposed to a variety of manipulative behaviors. Normally, the BPD sufferer will use sophisticated manipulation techniques in order to decline even the most minor of life’s responsibilities.  To put it briefly, as suggested by one of my readers, "BPD people put their entire lives in your hands and then blame you and punish you if something goes wrong." BPD is a black hole of attention and affection. Nothing can fill this void.  The person closest to the BPD victim can experience the following feelings that prevent that person from moving away from their BPD: They will feel used and manipulated. They will be forced to sacrifice their personal needs in a dedicated existence, devoted to the sufferer of BPD. There will be concern about what will happen to the BPD sufferer if I leave. THere will be concerns, like: How will the BPD sufferer react to a break-up? Will they try to self-harm or commit suicide? If I abandon the BPD sufferer, then I am the bad person who has been selfish, and disregarded him, so what he says is true. There are many other situations that are listed within this book. Knowing the right information allows you to limit the damage and avoid unnecessary suffering. 

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2020 David Lawson, PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 3 hrs and 10 mins
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Borderline Mother

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Have you been deeply hurt by your mother? Did the woman, who should have loved you, nourished you, and protected you inflict traumas that still affect your life today? Are you struggling every day to repair the damage that she caused? If you were raised by a BPD parent, your childhood would more than likely have been an unstable and painful experience. Children raised by mothers with borderline personality disorder are at risk of developing the same kind of emotional problems. They may find themselves facing seemingly insurmountable obstacles in order to overcome their parent's dysfunctional attitudes, and it may be necessary to seek professional help to work on such feelings. If you have experienced these issues as a child, you may have low self-esteem or suffer from anger or depression. Recognising that these problems are not a choice, but the consequences of your mother's disorder, is a necessary first step towards healing your emotional wounds. Adult children of BDP parents are often afflicted with so much guilt and such a strong sense of profound obligation and shame that they feel obliged to keep secret all that has happened in the family, even when it is destroying their lives. These people can find it really difficult to share their experiences because mothers with BPD are usually very good at creating the perfect family image for outsiders to the family. I advise you to listen to this audiobook if any of these symptoms sound familiar: Sudden unexplained anxiety followed by rapid falls into depression. Doubting yourself and your sanity. Mood swings. Endless and repetitive obsessive thinking about your mother. Constantly try to find explanations for what happened. Feelings of powerlessness and despair. A desire to self-isolate. Overwhelming feelings of loss and pain. Extreme attacks of anger. Insomnia or strange dreams. Many listeners can recognize their mothers and themselves in this audiobook Often the children of borderline mothers are terrified of their attitudes and remain paralyzed by failing to react, others find courage but find themselves without the right tools to face them. Looking for help from friends and acquaintances could not be the best solution, they will try to minimize or simply say that you are overdoing it. Don't take it out on them, they won't understand you because they haven't experienced certain dynamics in their lives. What you need to learn: Understanding the psychological mechanisms of a borderline mother. The main styles of a borderline mother - identify the traits. The serious consequences in adulthood if you don't address these issues. Things you should never do with BPD sufferers/Learn to defend yourself emotionally against them. How to overcome the trauma and begin a healthy healing process. There are many other situations that will be listed within this audiobook.

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2020 David Lawson PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 4 hrs and 4 mins
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Avoidant Attachment

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Does your partner experience their relationship with you through a certain detachment? Do you feel coldness and distance within the relationship that is difficult to explain? Do you strive to grow your relationship, but have been stuck in the same spot for months or even years? A partner with an avoidant attachment style of emotion can build walls and create distances in any couple relationship and can show strict communication limits and undermine a romantic relationship. The detached attitude of the avoidant attachment personality can be frustrating for a partner, who will experience feelings of uselessness and/or neglect, even to the point of feeling completely abandoned. Those who in a relationship with an avoidant partner can, justifiably, take a few steps back and question the entire relationship. I recommend that you listen to this book if your partner: Has a shy, detached, elusive personality or seems impervious to love and emotions. Struggles to think as a couple and to build a sense of "us". Obstructs, or deviates from any attempt to communicate your hurt feelings.  Cannot - or will not - accept help from others. Shows boundless love for a pet but can be cool and aloof with you. Regards any request for intimacy from you as pressurising. Shows difficulties in living the sexual life of a couple in a natural way, sometimes even avoiding intimacy in their relationships. Is not aware of these dynamics, so can come to question love, to the point of thinking that they are a difficult person. If you do not intervene soon, those in a couple relationship with an avoidant person will end up having to settle for a relationship that consists of distances, until the relationship eventually fragments. Everything you have built together will have been in vain. Understanding the wounds of attachment is the best gift you can give to your relationship, and grow and nurture intimacy. Scroll to the top of the page, and listen to this audiobook now!

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2021 David Lawson, PhD

Narrator: Russell Newton
Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

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You find yourself facing a painful situation, but do you have the emotional resources to overcome it? Expectations have been placed upon you to fight against pain and difficult situations and conquer them. Unfortunately, you have fallen into a trap. Pain, anger, fear, sadness, and shame are notoriously difficult emotions to manage as they have been forged by nature to protect us. Fighting these emotions with the so-called wisdom that you have received only makes the situation worse – chances are that you have not even noticed this, as you have misplaced your faith in such "wisdom". It is natural for humans to suffer. However, suffering is not just about physical or psychological pain. People also suffer from emotional pain, doubts in self-worth, uncomfortable feelings, and painful memories. Because we dread or worry about suffering, we do everything we can to avoid such feelings. We constantly seek to minimize our suffering. Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) focuses on the problem of human suffering, but it also deals with much deeper matters. It addresses the understanding of human suffering as an important factor in realizing a good life. This new form of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) asks important questions such as, “What is my real purpose in life?”  You need to listen to this book if you have suffered any of the following in the last three months: Anxiety, depression, or anger; intense or uncontrollable emotional explosions Instability in interpersonal relationships and self-esteem; concerns about abandonment Feeling desperately misunderstood, feelings of helplessness and despair, self-harm and notions of suicide What you will learn from this book: You will learn to notice your thoughts, images, or memories, recognizing them for the products of the mind that they are, and not absolute realities. You will learn to look at your own experience from a privileged position, from above, decentralized, promoting the perception of your own emotional experience. You will learn to give up control of your thoughts and let them go, give them space, sort through them, and thus diminish the influence and the power that they wield. The progression of human suffering can look like this: Pain, resulting in negative thinking or self-doubt Negative thinking or self-doubt resulting in negative feelings such as sadness or depression Sadness or depression that could lead to stress or muscle tension. Stress or muscle tension that could lead to more pain

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2020 David Lawson PhD

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