J.B. Snow has 41 audiobooks on Listento.it, narrated by 33 narrators, with an average listener rating of 3.6★ across 33 ratings. The most-rated is Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control.
Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control
Summary
You try to commiserate with your friends and family, but they seem to shun you lately. Your friends don't know what you are talking about when you complain about your unhealthy relationship. They think that your partner is a perfect angel. Your family is confused about your erratic behaviors. Everyone thinks that you have gone stark-raving mad. You try to get your wits about you, but your partner is always there to tell you that you are worthless, clingy, emotional, needy, and crazy. Maybe his parents and his other family members are supportive of him. They don't seem to like you. His charm has won over everyone else. You wonder if you are the one who is the problem. After all, why can't everyone else see that your partner is causing the decline in your mental health? Why don't they empathize with your emotional pain? You don't feel like yourself anymore. You feel like a shell of your former self. You were so much vibrant and life-loving before you met the narcissist in your life. You love him, but you recognize that he is tearing you down at the same time. You wonder why your relationship isn't supportive, loving and filled with personal growth. The problem is this: you can't tell which one of you is crazy. At first, you were certain it was him. But lately, you wonder if your own sense of sanity is declining. You feel emotional, exhausted, depressed, frazzled, stressed, and confused. You think that you might even suffer a nervous breakdown any second now. Not even the counselors believe the suffering that you are experiencing. Most people have no idea what you are going through. If you are feeling this way, my friend, there is a simple explanation. You may be dating or married to a narcissist. Your self-absorbed partner may be gaslighting and manipulating you. He may cycle between love-bombing and distancing himself from you. He seems to be a nice guy to your face sometimes, but then you find out that he is talking bad about you to others. He seems to triangulate you with other women or family members in order to make you jealous and boost his own ego. Does he talk you in circles when you confront him about his whereabouts when he is running late? Does he tell you that you are being 'too clingy', 'too emotional', and 'too needy' when you say that you want to spend time together? Does he get defensive when you want to move the relationship forward in any way? Does he balk at anything resembling maturity and commitment? Does he isolate you from friends and family so that he has the opportunity to win everyone over to his side? Does he stop you from having any independence because he is afraid that you will leave him if you had some moral support? Is his self-esteem wavering to the point where he thinks that you might get smart if you talk to others? Does he fear you 'figuring out' what he is up to, especially if other people validate it to you?
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
Making Friends after Divorcing a Narcissist: (In 20 Minutes)
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If you are reading this, it is likely that you have just completed a divorce with a narcissistic partner. You may have even suffered custody loss or loss of your marital home, finances, and belongings. The narcissist often takes a lot of things with him when he goes. But, alas, he leaves you with your freedom. Freedom to do whatever you darn well please with your time without catering to the likes of him; congratulations! But what should you do with your free time? There are many things that you can do! We will cover the tentative post-divorce bucket list of things you’re now free to do in lucky book #13 (insert sarcasm here). It is no doubt that you have been isolated so long that you lost all your socialization skills (if you had learned any from your parents to begin with - maybe you were always slightly shy - nonetheless). You’re in luck. We will teach you in this book how to make friends post-divorce. Hopefully, we will do it in 20 minutes (and then you’ll have time to do all the things on your new bucket list with those new friends!). In this Divorce Court series, our other books will help you learn how to handle the personalities that you will come across, how to become more likable to the other people in the courtroom, how to soothe the stress you are under during and post-divorce, what relationship complex PTSD looks like, what feelings and emotions you experience when going through the court process, how to cope with losses, and learn the strategies that the narcissist is going to use against you that you must be ready for. Listen to this book, then listen to the other books in the series for a full spectrum strategy in dealing with the narcissist in and out of court. This book refers to the narcissist as a "he", but the narcissist in the relationship and divorce proceedings can also be a "she". The pronouns are interchangeable for the purposes of this book. Recognize the purpose of small talk Many shy people don’t realize this, but small talk has a purpose. The purpose of small talk, also referred to scientifically as phallic communication, is to groom one another and to bond. When you go on a date (especially with a narcissistic person or an extroverted person), you will notice they talk on and on about a whole lot of nothing. The weather, what they had for lunch, the dog they used to have, what their parents do for work. They gossip about their coworkers or their family members. Or, they talk about popular culture (probably quoting the last movie they saw several times and laughing to themselves about a particular scene.)
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
How to Talk to a Difficult, Narcissistic, or Toxic Parent (Without Being Pulled into Their Drama)
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If you have downloaded this audiobook, it is likely that you are struggling to cope with a parent who is difficult. I have dealt with my share of difficult people, as well as the difficult people who my readers and listeners often seek my advice on. I hope that the knowledge that we have collected over the past four decades will help you with the difficult person in your life, and will hopefully encourage the difficult relationship toward some sort of sanity and peace. Difficult parents and difficult people are everywhere. I estimate that there are far more than 30 percent of the population who have personality disorders and mental illness. Those who are actively seeking treatment are counted on the statistics by NIMH (the National Institute of Mental Health), but the numbers seem low in my personal opinion. Many of us know a large number of people who have mental illness problems or personality trait issues who were never diagnosed. The truth is that many people with narcissistic personality disorder, OCPD, schizoid disorder, avoidant personality disorder, anti-social personality disorder, psychopathy, conduct disorder, intermittent explosive disorder, battered woman syndrome, paranoid personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and many others don't seek any type of diagnosis or treatment throughout their lives. This is particularly true with males and females who are negative perfectionists suffering from OCPD - rigidness, arrogance, and inflexibility. We often label people as being difficult, eccentric, and a myriad of other names, but we don't consider that they have a personality disorder underlying their terrible and unacceptable behaviors toward others. Many of us come from families full of people who are exhibiting the various symptoms of personality disorders. Whether or not your family member has a "label" for their condition, they have learned, acquired or grown up with a dysfunctional way of relating to other people.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Alice in Wonderland Syndrome: Experiencing Complex PTSD, Trauma, Anxiety, Depersonalization, Derealization, and Migraines
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Many people have heard of trauma and PTSD. But when we think of PTSD, many of us think of nightmares and flashbacks that are related to one traumatic incident or event that has been experienced by the sufferer. There is another form of PTSD that's related to being exposed to repetitive trauma. It is called Complex PTSD, coined by a woman named Judith Herman. In this audiobook, we will first explain Complex PTSD and trauma as it relates to Alice in Wonderland Syndrome (AIWS). We will also discuss how AIWS relates to migraines, stress, and food intolerances. We will then touch base on who exactly is prone to experience Alice in Wonderland Syndrome, what the symptoms are, and how one can seek relief from this mysterious brain disturbance. What is Complex PTSD? How does it relate to Alice in Wonderland Syndrome? Complex PTSD is a disorder which alters a person's cognitive state, personality, and emotional states due to repeated exposure to events in which the person feels incapable or helpless. These events can be an abusive romantic relationship or childhood physical abuse. Traumatic events can include a death, an infidelity, a complicated birth, a medical or mental illness, a job loss, and many other events. Events that cause people stress and dysfunction can also include natural disasters, school bullying, rape, theft, mugging, automobile accidents, and physical injury. PTSD or Complex PTSD can be caused by nearly any event in which a person feels an overall lack of control in reference to what is occurring. They feel hopeless, helpless, weak, or powerless during the event because of circumstances or actions that may be out of their control.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
C-PTSD and PTSD Brain Hacks
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Have you experienced trauma or a traumatic event in your life? Have you been struggling with PTSD or complex PTSD from relationships or adverse childhood experiences? At some point, most us will experience a time where our instinctual fight-or-flight programming will kick in. We may not always be able to control how our body and mind react to a given traumatic situation; however, we can help fix the symptoms to your problems and reprogram your minds with brain hacks. You will need to become more aware of your triggers and recognize when you are being “set off”. You learn how to better understand what you can do to hack your mind and become more in control of your life. Understand how to identify where your anxiety comes from and how to deal with your stress. Figure out why you feel helpless or why the fear of the unknown has you paralyzed with fear. You will better understand why you should not use PTSD or CPTSD as a crutch to move through life and in certain situations when it will and can be used against you. You will hear more about how to use both sides of your brain and hacks to integrate both hemispheres of your brain and which side of the brain controls what. Inside, there are brain hacks to deal with self-confidence, self-esteem, and anxiety. Understand how to reprogram your subconscious mind with simple tricks to think more positively and adjust your attitude, outlook, and your perception of yourself. Learn to use the “mindbus” technique to hack your brain and how to use it to reprogram your negative thoughts. Understand and give your mind the nutrients with foods that help boost your dopamine and serotonin levels naturally in your brain to help combat PTSD and CPTSD. Simply eating the right diet and exercise can ward off depression and help stop the downward spiral before it begins. We cannot always choose the people we work with or the environment we work in, but we can change our environment from time to time. You can find ways to keep yourself sane and in a positive headspace by relieving yourself of some of stress that you can control. All the answers are right here. Free yourself of your anxiety and regain that confidence in your life. Figure out your emotional quotient or emotional IQ and learn to cope with your situation. You have the power to change and the tools before you to gain control of your life. Be free of your anxiety; start here and now.
©2019 J.J. Hill (P)2019 J.J. Hill
The Real Reason the Narcissist Cheated
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Many people are cheated on by the narcissist. You might think at the beginning of the relationship, in the romance and love bombing stage, that you will be immune to the narcissist cheating on you. He will not admit that he has cheated on other partners that came before you. You have no knowledge of his history before you met him, so you have no predisposed idea that he might cheat on you at all. So, you proceed with the relationship with the narcissist, as though you have met your twin flame, your soulmate, and your night in shining armor. He makes all these lifelong promises of romance, a perfect future, and just the two of you being together. You seem to have a relationship that, although not perfect, might at least seem palatable. Sometimes, the narcissist is everything you imagined in your fantasies of what a relationship should look like. Other times, he is your worst nightmare. Still, the relationship marches on. Then, seemingly out of the blue, the narcissist cheats. You don’t realize it, but all the while throughout the whole relationship, the narcissist was cheating. He was doing little things here and there that might have given you clues that he was cheating. He covered many of them up. He couldn’t let on to you that he was cheating, or that he was grooming another mate, or that he was looking for your replacement all this while. After all, he views himself as a "good guy", and nothing you do or say will change his view of himself. The truth of the matter is that the narcissist cannot be monogamous. There are many reasons that he cannot be monogamous with you. Almost none of these reasons have to do with how smart, pretty, and successful you are. It has less to do with who you are and how well you are doing, and more to do with the way that the narcissist is wired and how he interacts with his environment.
©2018 J.B. Snow (P)2018 J.B. Snow
Chronic Pain, Anxiety, Food Intolerance and More: Sufferers of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorder
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I am a writer, but, most importantly, I am a mother of children affected by high-functioning autism. As far back as I can remember, many of my family members have also been stricken with symptoms that are consistent with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. Like many of my listeners, I remember constantly being ill as a child. I couldn't do many of the activities that my peers could do. Sometimes I was sent to the doctor, and other times I was sent home from school. Since my mother was a nurse, I thought that maybe my symptoms were normal. After all, why wouldn't she take me to the doctor to have these symptoms treated? Ehlers-Danlos syndrome is a genetic disorder that is frightening and elusive to the medical community. It is one of many inherited disorders that affect the connective tissues in the body, including collagen. Many physicians will tell their patients that their symptoms are all in their heads. They might classify the patient as mentally ill, a hypochondriac, or a drug seeker. Sufferers of chronic pain might eventually give up seeking help from the medical community altogether when they are faced with these labels and skeptical physicians. Ehlers-Danlos syndrome is known to be a condition in which people usually have hypermobile joints and stretchy skin. This is what physicians generally look for when they are considering EDS diagnoses. The truth is that EDS can present in many different ways. There are many different types and forms of EDS, and they affect very different parts of a person's body. A physician who looks for only two signs is missing the big picture of the family history and the patient's symptoms in relation to an EDS diagnosis.
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
5 Stages of Custody and Divorce
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Over half of all people living in the world today experience divorce. But what comes with divorce and custody battles? Surely, we feel both positive and negative emotions during the most difficult and transformative time in our lives. Surely, our ex and our children are going through some profound senses of loss - loss of dreams and loss of future plans. Loss of belongings, their home, their car, loss of family, loss of children. Some divorcees go through significantly more difficulty in adjusting than other. Some parents handle divorce like a business deal, particularly if they weren’t bonded emotionally to their partner to begin with. Some partners have no ability to bond with their marital mate, and thus they jump ship at the first chance of some improved financial circumstances. If you are struggling with the divorce and custody battle, especially if you are in a highly contentious, high conflict divorce - you need to read the divorce court series by J.B. Snow. We show you how to be more likeable in court to enhance your chances of a positive outcome. We show you what parental alienation syndrome looks like, and we warn you of the tactics that can and will be used against you in court. The court room is filled with lies and deceit and bribery and corruption in some areas. If you aren’t prepared for this when you walk into the courtroom, you will lose. Even a person who goes through two to three divorces still isn’t prepared for the catastrophic affects the courtroom process has on their emotions and their family. This is especially difficult for people who don’t want a divorce. A person who doesn’t want a divorce especially struggles to understand why his or her partner would put a family though the family court system to begin with. A cruel and self-centered partner is all about strategizing like this is a competition and a business deal. The court personnel treat you like you’re just another family on the conveyor line heading toward the chopping block. They don’t have much sympathy or empathy for you or your family - they believe you did something or your ex did something to get you to this place in the first place. This book will walk you through some of the feelings you will experience during and after a divorce and/or custody battle.
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
Ways to Detect Predatory Humans: Avoiding Covert and Overt Narcissistic Abuse and Exploitation
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Do you know that there are predators right under your nose? There are predatory humans just like there are predatory animals. These predatory humans don’t have your best interests in mind. They seek to use and exploit you. When a serial killer is caught, many of us are shocked to realize who it was, how handsome he was, how pretty she was, and how intelligent. The predatory human blends in with everyone else. Suddenly, you find yourself dealing with a predatory human at work, school, in your family, in your child, or in other areas where you didn’t expect to find them. Because of genetics, we are entering into a narcissism epidemic. In 2015, one in four people were a narcissist. Today, that number is two-thirds of all people are narcissistic. That’s almost five billion people on the planet, with the minority of them being people like you who have a conscience and morals. There is a thing called DRD4 long gene polymorphism that makes morally inferior, conscience-void, predatory human beings. The polymorphism of the long gene DRD4 means that more predatory humans are being born every day. If the scientists and global warming are accurate, we will continually experience more and more weather events, increases in deadly pathogens and fungi, decreases in air quality, and more issues. We could go into a state of emergency, and if you don’t know how to spot a predatory human, you will be at the bottom of the food chain in the survival of the fittest. What qualifies us to write this book? I am an author with over 100,000 readers who have been emailing me their stories of abuse and survival since 2015. I have been sought out by predators on several occasions due to having naïve parents who didn’t teach me much about the world. Additionally, I had trauma in my childhood which helped the predators identify me by the way I walk and talk - I will explain more on this later. I survived a relationship or two over the span of my life that were seriously volatile, and I came out of them with several serious injuries that I lived to tell about. To do research for my books, I intentionally put myself into dangerous life-threatening situations. I intentionally tested my survival skills. I wanted to grow a thicker skin and become strong and resilient, instead of being a weak, little flower. I was probably crazy as hell in doing so, but I had to get over the mental and emotional traumas that being naïve had caused me. The traumas made me feel helpless and paralyzed, and I was sick and tired of feeling afraid. I’m not afraid anymore; of anything. Download now to read more!
©2019 J.J. Hill (P)2019 J.J. Hill
Feelings You Experience in the Midst of High Conflict Divorce and Custody Battle - in 20 Minutes
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Are you struggling against a courtroom full of people who are stressing you out more than your ex did? Are you terrified of losing everything in the midst of a high conflict divorce? Are you terrified that the torture will never end? Do you fear retaliation from the narcissist, and do you fear losing your children or your sanity to him? In 20 minutes, we will discuss a lot of the feelings and emotions that you are going through, and we will tell you how to better cope with going up against the narcissist in court. In this Divorce Court series, our other books help you learn how to be likable in the courtroom, how to handle the personalities that you will come across, how to soothe the stress you are under, and strategies that the narcissist is going to use against you that you must be ready for. Listen to this audiobook, and the other books in the series for a full spectrum strategy in dealing with the narcissist in and out of court. This audiobook refers to the narcissist as a "he", but the narcissist in the relationship and divorce proceedings can also be a "she". The pronouns are interchangeable for the purposes of this audiobook. Frustrated One of the feelings that will be primary in your high conflict divorce is frustration. You were undoubtedly frustrated with your partner prior to the divorce court, and it is likely that this frustration will continue long after the divorce is over with. The narcissistic parent or ex-lover has been wounded by the fact that his marriage or relationship failed in the first place, and he will constantly make sure that other people think the failure was your failure instead of his. Learn to let go of your frustration. Don’t expect too much of yourself during this time. Many people think that they should push themselves harder, but you are going through a lot right now. Take some time out for yourself in order to reduce your frustration through the process. Recognize that it is a process. Pamper yourself and get some rest and relaxation so that you are prepared for it. People who continue to allow their frustration to take over them often struggle when they are in court and up on the stand. Even worse, they let their anger and frustration get the best of them in front of the court and their ex to the point that they get arrested right in the middle of court! The narcissist often starts a long time before the breakup in his triangulation of other people against you and his gossiping about you behind your back. The narcissist doesn’t want anyone in his inner circle to like you or spend time with you over him, and he is always two steps ahead of you in laying the foundation just in case his.... Listen to find out more.
©2019 J.B. Snow (P)2019 J.B. Snow
9 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with an Emotionally Immature Man
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Many of my listeners write to me with their stories - they are stuck in a relationship with an emotionally immature man, or they are in love with one and they don't know what to do. It is difficult to pick and choose who we fall in love with. Sometimes, there is just a strong chemistry that pulls us together and attracts us to another person. We become strongly addicted to our partner like an addict is drawn to his drug of choice. We struggle to walk away from the relationship and cut the ties to the other person because our heart doesn't want to face the truth of the matter: that maybe they aren't fit for a relationship at their very core. There are many relationships that have a mix of personality types, which seem to be heading for failure. There is the relationship between the neuro-typical woman and the Asperger's man. The extreme male brain of the Asperger's man never seems to be understood by his partner. She becomes increasingly frustrated with the way that he thinks, as he becomes increasingly frustrated that she wants empathy, understanding, and emotional validation. The two speak a completely different language due to the more primitive and more traditional brain wiring of the male in these relationships, and the more emotional and social brain of the woman. There are the relationships between narcissistic men and borderline, OCPD, or codependent women. Many women were raised by a father who was a narcissistic, workaholic, or OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disordered). Their fathers either over-nurtured and spoiled them or expected perfection of them at all times. They became engrained in their attempts to find a mate who was much like their father: narcissistic, OCPD, and rigid. The woman becomes borderline narcissistic, codependent, or OCPD herself. She is subsequently attracted to the same type of emotionally invalidating man as her father was to her. This audiobook seeks to teach one partner in the relationship how to relate to and cope with a partner who has limited emotional maturity and capability. It seeks to give better clarity while taking into consideration the cognitive, emotional, and social deficits that are engrained in the partner's brain. It should take some of the anxiety and pressure from the more social and emotional partner by shedding some light on the fact that they are not the ones with the deficiency, despite what their partner is telling them.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
How CPTSD Feels
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Most people don’t understand what CPTSD or PTSD is. They recognize PTSD as being a thing that happens only to veterans who have been put through wartime suffering. But what about other people who experience an extreme amount of trauma or experience a prolonged existence full of negative events? What conditions do they come out of the trauma with? How is that trauma (the trauma of wartime) any different from the suffering that comes out of a romantically abusive relationship? How is the trauma of a soldier different from the trauma of a child who hides in his closet; both of them fearful of the people and the danger that is on the other side of a barrier? The truth of the matter is this: a person can experience complex PTSD (CTPSD) from any kind of event or events which make them feel helpless or hopeless. These events can be rape, childhood abuse or neglect, emotional trauma, extreme weather, bullying in a romantic relationship, bullying from your friends or coworkers, shaming and embarrassment from parents and teachers, and more. Complex PTSD changes the brain in many ways. It atrophies the parts of the brain which make us want to pursue new learning experiences. Traumatic events agitate the central nervous system by overwhelming the body with the stress hormone cortisol. I understand the symptoms you are suffering all too well. I suffered from the symptoms until I spent a significant amount of time on my own personal growth and wellness. I can help you, too - but only if you’re willing to get real with yourself. If you feel largely traumatized in a particular situation, you will become seriously traumatized over a period of time. You might become traumatized to the point that you no longer feel.... Get this audiobook now to hear more.
©2019 J.B. Snow Publishing (P)2019 J.B. Snow Publishing
The Misunderstood Loner: An Explanation of Schizoid Personality Disorder
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Excerpt: You may have seen them. Maybe you are one of them. The teens who prefer to be alone and who avoid making social connections with their peers. The adult who stays in his basement playing videogames or browsing the Internet. The little boy who chases frogs at the pond by himself instead of finding some friends to go fishing with. Maybe it is the woman who surrounds herself with cats and lives deep in the country, rarely venturing into town - even for necessities. Are these people shy, or do they have something that is much more pervasive? Humans, by nature, generally want to be social with others. We thrive on conversation, interaction, and learning from each other. We were designed to be able to pass along our knowledge to the generations that come after us, and we strive to educate ourselves in order to be more sufficient and able to provide for our families or become productive members of society. There is a subset of people who are different from the normal population. Their brains are wired a bit differently, or they went through experiences in their lives that contributed to their introversion, social avoidance, and shyness. They may have been sensitive children who were neglected or abused, never encouraged to learn about the world around them. Their feelings may have been invalidated while they were young, so they learned to keep their emotions inside instead of sharing them with others around them. They learned to be self-sufficient instead of relying on others and on society for their needs. Some of these shy individuals who we classify as loners may be afflicted with a disorder called schizoid personality disorder...." From four-time best-selling author J. B. Snow.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
BPD Recovery
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Stop your BPD for good! Stop wasting money on drugs or therapy. Stop experiencing failed relationships and crippling depression. Once you understand the source of your BPD, you can fight this disorder and be normal again! All of the answers are right here in this book!
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
How to Catch and Keep the Man You Want
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Tired of failed relationships? Tired of wasting time trying to land the right man for you? Tired of all the losers? So was I! Don't wait decades (like I did) to learn the secrets of landing and keeping a great guy! I will tell you how I finally landed the elusive man of my dreams! After I passed up other marriage proposals to very suitable suitors! I will share the tips to having a nauseatingly amazing relationship with him! Tips that will keep him happy and keep him around! No - I am not rich, famous or sickeningly gorgeous. I am an average girl like you are (truthfully, I could stand to lose a few pounds!) If I can meet the man of my dreams, so can you!
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
12 Types of Women Who Attract Narcissists: Narcissism Epidemic
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Life with a narcissist is daunting, harrowing, and unpredictable. He is self-absorbed, self-sufficient, and self-serving. He is haughty, arrogant, and oblivious to your wishes, desires, dreams, and goals. He is rude and envious toward others. He has terrible behavior and even worse manners. He is untrustworthy and incapable of any true and consistent feelings worthy of anyone else's attention. Life with a narcissist is all-consuming, isolated, and draining. He is lacking any adult skills or abilities to meet another person's needs, and so he misbehaves and acts out in order to take your attention away from his all-consuming deficits. He is truly only half of a man - and maybe that is generous. He often falls through on his responsibilities to you, up to and including simply meeting your sexual needs. Why do women run to these men in droves? What causes them to drop at the feet of narcissists, seemingly begging for their punishment and negative behaviors? This book seeks to define the deficits that are often present in the woman who seeks out or inadvertently falls prey to a petty narcissist. The narcissist seeks out only specific types of women, and he turns a blind eye to others. There are only certain types of women who have a deficit or an overinterest in dating emotionally immature men such as narcissists. We seek to define these in order to bring a broader knowledge to those who suffer at the hands of narcissists and why narcissists seek out these types for their amusement. Download now to hear more!
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow
Trauma Bonding
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Many people wonder why women who are verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by their partners are still hanging onto the relationship. These women can end up in a hospital fighting for their lives. They can get their children taken away due to exposing them to an abusive male. They can lose all of their relationships, money, and dignity in this relationship, but still they come back to their abuser. Not only do these women bounce back from the abuse to rekindle the romance with their abusive partners, but they try to protect their abusers from being punished for all of the things that they have done. The situation is a no-brainer for the outsiders who are looking in. But it isn't so clear to the two people who are in the toxic relationships to see why they keep feeling overwhelming connectedness toward a partner who treats them like pond scum at least part of the time. There is a good reason for this strange relationship between an abuser and an abused victim, and this audiobook will seek to explain it in layman's terms. The concept that these relationships are eventually based on is something called trauma bonding. It binds the person doing the abusing with the person that is receiving the abuse in a deeply entrenched manner. Neither of them can seem to break the bonds of this toxic relationship and move on with their lives. Trauma bonding occurs when an abuser uses intense fear, intimidation, manipulation, overly romantic gestures, mind-control, and crazy-making tactics in order to entrap the other person in the relationship. The more confused and disoriented the victim becomes, the more control and pressure is exerted by the abusive party....
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
PTSD and Complex PTSD: How Chronic Anxiety, Childhood Trauma, Domestic Abuse and Toxic Relationships Cause PTSD and Complex PTSD
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Many people experience anxiety at some point in their lives. You feel anxiety when speaking in public, trying something new, or meeting someone special. Your palms get sweaty. Your heart races. You feel a ball in your stomach. Your chest feels tight. Anxiety is good in some situations. It prepares us for flight-or-flight responses. It prompts us to take action or to plan out what is going to occur in a situation. Anxiety in mild forms can be a good thing. Our body is designed to be anxious in situations where we should take control and take action. Anxiety that pervades everything in our life, causes us to be sick, and keeps us awake at night is bad. Anxiety can escalate to another level. When a person is exposed to traumatic or negative events where they feel little or no control in the outcome, the anxiety can turn into post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). If you have enough recurring events in your life that are traumatic, you may even be diagnosed with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD). Complex PTSD is a disorder that often affects soldiers, battered women, and children who have been in abusive and domestic violence situations. It is used to diagnose people who have been exposed to long-term and repeated exposure to situations out of their control, whereas normal PTSD can occur in someone with exposure to one or two traumatic events. PTSD can happen when someone is raped or is the victim of other violent circumstances, like a shooting event. A person who dates or marries a psychopath or a narcissist can have complex PTSD. A child who is sexually abused repeatedly is also likely to have complex PTSD.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Narcissist and the Peter Pan Syndrome: Emotionally Unavailable and Emotionally Immature Men
Summary
Many people have heard about the Peter Pan syndrome. The term was coined by Dr. Dan Kiley in the book The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up. He also wrote another book terming the women who loved the emotionally immature man as "Wendy", referring to the Peter Pan story and movie in which Wendy falls in love with the boy who can never be who she wants him to be. He is the boy who is incapable of feeling love for another person, and he lives to serve his own sense of self, independence, and needs. This audiobook seeks to define the traits of the men who may be classified as Peter Pans. We will also cover the harmless types of Peter Pans as well as mention those types who are much more harmful. We will touch on the frustrations that might occur in the interactions between Peter Pans and their friends, partners, and family members. Once we can define a Peter Pan, we can lower our expectations in relating to these types and seek to understand their limitations as we interact with them. We have all met men who have the Peter Pan syndrome. Many of these men are also narcissistic and self-absorbed simply by the nature of the Peter Pan syndrome. A man who is stuck in his path through life as a boy never matures emotionally. He carries around his childhood sense of himself throughout his life. In many instances, his tastes do not grow or change. The way that he interacts with others does not grow or change. He is still stuck as a 12-year-old boy, or sometimes even younger, in his emotional development.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
Narcissistic Fathers: High Expectation, Critical Putdowns and Broken Promises
Summary
Many of my listeners grew up in broken homes. They have wondered for many years what went wrong. They don't feel like their childhoods were happy, but they can't quite put their fingers on what caused the discontent. On the surface their parents tried to make it look like everything was picture perfect. Other people outside of the family might even have believed it. The children often grow up blaming themselves for everything that went wrong at home. However, this is far from the truth. Once people start to dig into their childhoods, they may begin to realize that at least one parent wasn't quite what he or she seemed. It was hard to differentiate which parent caused the discontent at home. A person's mother could seem chronically unhappy, depressed, and anxious. She might behave as though she is jealous, ungrateful, unappreciative, or critical. The truth isn't always what it seems. Sometimes the father is the actual culprit in a happy marriage, but he is content to attribute the problems in the family to the disobedient children or nagging wife. Many people find out much later that it was really a narcissistic father at the root of all of the family's problems. The narcissistic father often causes the mother's steep mental decline by using gaslighting to break down her self-esteem. He isolates her from her friends and family and often reacts in angry and jealous ways to her attempts to interact with coworkers or school personnel. He often doesn't support the mother or the children emotionally. The narcissistic father might triangulate the mother or pit others against her to make her react in jealous ways or to destroy her self-confidence. He might be competing against the mother, always holding the family assets just out of arm's reach for her. She constantly has to fight him or beg him in order to provide things that the children need.
©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow